For most of the weddings I've attended, I was happy to be there and to celebrate a beautiful new stage in life for either a dear friend or a close family member.
And considering how stressful weddings are the best of times and how badly the wedding industry seems to want wedded couples like they have infinite money, that said a lot about the grace and patience they showed in putting it together.
With all that in mind, I want to make it clear that I'm hardly expecting brides to suffer the indignities they go through on the way to their big day with a smile, nor am I trying to pretend that she and her groom don't have the final say over how that wedding will proceed.
But for those who gave rise to the term "bridezilla," the obsession with shaping the wedding into their idea of "perfect" leads them to severely overestimate the amount of leeway their guests will give them and how much it's acceptable for them to try and control.
Because trying to make a wedding "perfect" is the fastest way to make sure nobody actually enjoys it.