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Best Man Asks If He Was Wrong For 'Telling The Truth' About Bridezilla In Toast

In the aim to make one's wedding day as perfect as possible, it isn't uncommon for there to be strife along the way, running into bumps in the road that throw everything off.

Then there are those who are aggressive and restrictive for no reason when it comes to their weddings. They aren't solving problems, they're making them. One best man had enough when it came to the couple's criticisms and decided to get some revenge.

Planning a wedding can be stressful for all involved.

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This is why the archetype of the 'bridezilla' exists at all. People want their weddings to be perfect, and are willing to do anything to make it so.

When one couple had a strange set of rules for their respective parties, the best man got pretty fed up, and let his frustrations out on the couple's wedding day.

He shared his story looking for perspectives on who was in the wrong here, starting from the beginning.

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His best friend was the one getting married, and things started seeming off early on. He had expressed that he wouldn't be able to contribute a ton money-wise as his wife is expecting and they were preparing for their child, but he still set aside $300 as a gift as well as attended every side event, paying his own way for all of it. This becomes important.

The bride created a very specific and strict set of rules for him and his wife.

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The rules included no talking about the pregnancy at the wedding — "She didn't want anyone to focus on that more than her, the bride," he wrote — his wife must choose a dress that "downplays her pregnancy as much as possible," and they also hounded him quite a bit about not contributing enough and listed things he should be paying for even though he told them he couldn't. "She said if I was a true best man, I would offer to pay for the bar bill," he noted.

The bride also wanted prior approval of the speech he'd give at the reception.

"She told me to make up things if I had to. I was also NOT allowed to include anyone but the two of them and no inside jokes or stories about my buddy that didn't include her."

"I was just so aggravated, I spoke to my friend to see if he could reason with her," he wrote. "He told me to just play ball on this one, it's her day and to cut him a break, because he'd be dealing with her nonsense for the rest of his life. I was annoyed but calmed down."

This, alongside constant hounding and telling him he wasn't doing enough, made for a stressful leadup to the big day.

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"The day of, all the bride and my buddy do is scold me, berate me and bark orders," he wrote. He was fed up, and chose to give a speech that the bride certainly wouldn't approve of.

Maybe it went a bit too far, but the best man sure let his feeling be known.

"I didn't give them the card with the cash and in the speech, I used my friend's exact wording about having to deal with her nonsense for the rest of his life," he wrote. "I wished them the best and told him I'd always be there for him, especially during the divorce."

When serving their judgement, everyone agreed that there was no set villain here. Everyone was at fault.

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The bride was being a tyrant, the groom was enabling her, and the best man waited until the very end to finally put his foot down.

"Look dude, you were totally justified, but you also had ample opportunity to jump off the crazy train before it got this far. [...] You waited until the last min and let your emotions get the better of you. Your wife deserved better from these people and from you in this moment," wrote one insightful user who holds the top comment.

While some people did admire his pettiness, they knew it wasn't right in the end.

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"You are my hero," said another commenter. "Also be aware that your friendship might be over if not for any other reason than that the new wifey will make it so."

Was it worth the sacrifice? Only time will tell, but hey, at least he got all this pent-up annoyance off his chest!

Seems hard to imagine how the friendship can continue after that speech, so maybe he should have expressed his feelings in a more private forum? What do you think? Was the best man in the wrong, or was the couple? Let us know in the comments!

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