As progressive as our society has become, we are still clinging on to some severely outdated gender roles — specifically when it comes to dating.
Recently, TikTok user @ask.nelly sparked a furious debate after she posted a video asserting that men should never let a woman pay on the first date.
The days of courting and being curious about how someone's wrist look are long gone.
Now, it's almost infinitely harder for people to date.
It gets even worse for both parties when you realize there are even RULES to follow.
Like picking up your date, bringing them flowers, and even paying for the dinner.
Every. Single. Time.
A bold statement, as in today's world, people tend to split a bill!
She says that if a man asks a woman out and expects her to pay her share, that it shows that he's not only cheap but that he was also raised improperly.
"By that [dating out of their price range] I mean you're taking a girl out on a date you can't afford to do, so instead of trying to flex on a nice dinner, you're better off taking her on a picnic in the park."
Any woman who says otherwise simply isn't being honest, according to Nelly.
She says that women feel this way "Not because they can't afford it, but because it shows us your character and if you're a girl and you've paid for first dates, I want to tell you that he ain't it sis."
Many of the comments, from both men and women, echo Nelly's original argument.
But some were quick to point out how hypocritical Nelly's point of view really was.
If Nelly is accusing men of being raised improperly simply because they insist on splitting the bill, what does that say about her priorities and the things she values most?
"As a man that likes to show how much of a provider I am, I'll take a girl to a picnic at the park if I have no money, over dinner at a restaurant."
"Am I the only woman who always either pays for the first date or splits it and would never let a man pay? It makes me uncomfortable when people pay."
What do you think about her claims? Who do you think should pay?
Let us know down below in the comment section, we would certainly love to know your opinion!
