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Man Asks If He Was Wrong To Tell His Fiancée He Doesn't Like Her Wedding Dress

For a bride-to-be, picking a dress can be the best part of the wedding planning experience. Finding the gown you feel the most beautiful in is a magical experience!

However, it's easy for someone, anyone, to tarnish that, too. Such was the case with one man who said he didn't like his fiancée's choice of dress, which put their whole relationship in jeopardy.

There are a lot of anxieties and worries that go into the planning of a wedding.

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There's a lot to coordinate, choose, schedule, and secure, so it's no wonder so many people become stressed out trying to get it all sorted!

It was going relatively well for one engaged couple — that is, until the groom saw his future bride's dress.

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In a post he made on Reddit's r/AmITheAsshole page, he explained that his fiancée had simply been too excited to keep her dress a secret and wanted to show him, which he agreed to.

He made sure to clarify something before she put it on, though.

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"I specifically asked her if she wants the God's honest truth and wants me to critique the dress or if she knows she loves it and just wants to show me. She said she wanted my opinion."

He then said that when he first saw her in it, he was "a little disappointed."

"She put the dress on and came out of the bathroom and I would be lying if I said I wasn't a little disappointed. She's a beautiful woman and looks incredible in anything of course, but the dress completely dwarfed her and didn't really fit the wedding theme she has worked so hard for," he wrote.

"She wanted a foresty, magical and whimsical, type theme [...] But she chose a super sparkly dress with a HUGE skirt, which looked nothing like the [simple], body hugging sexy dresses she had been repeatedly showing me."

When he told her what he thought, she was understandably upset.

She got quiet, returned to remove the dress, then left their home to stay with her mother for the night. The groom-to-be then received some nasty text messages, then had his number blocked by her. He later discovered that the dress was $9000 and couldn't be returned.

So, in his moment of frustration, he asked the internet if he was in the wrong.

And he was met with a resounding 'yes'! Well, sort of, anyway.

As the top comment put it, "You’re not an asshole. But you’re an idiot."

They went on to explain that now, no matter what, she'll feel bad in her dress. She'll either know her husband doesn't like it, or spend a ton more cash buying a second one that she doesn't like. It became a lose-lose situation.

Others hopped into the replies to point out a smaller, less important detail.

"[...] every disney Princess has her woodland animals and poofy dresses until Elsa. So they're not opposites," wrote one user.

Many agreed, with someone else replying, "Right?! Like a big puffy Disney dress says 'woodland, magical, fairy tale' to me far more than a sexy figure hugging dress does!"

Someone gave an answer that can be applied to any situation like this, and is good advice for all.

"When someone shows you something they adore, that they've spent a lot of time (and money) to get, and that makes them feel special, the polite thing to do is not to [expletive] on it."

Luckily, he was very understanding in the comments, and definitely got the message.

As many people told him, admitting he was in the wrong is half the battle, with the other being his actual apology. He seemed ready and extremely willing to make this right, not wanting his own dumb comment to ruin their perfect wedding!

What do you think? She did say she wanted his opinion, after all. Let us know in the comments!

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