Have you ever totally lost it on your child? If so, you're not alone.
Kids are infamous for pushing boundaries. It's their way of testing how much they can get away with. When this happens, it's all too easy for parents to do the one thing that usually works: yell.
But does this accomplish anything? Sometimes. Is there a better way? According to one TikToker, the answer is yes.
She's a parenting coach and mother of two who goes by the name @parentingcoach on TikTok.
This is where she educates her more than 400k followers on how to better parent their children.
Recently, she has become a real-life savior to parents everywhere for her helpful videos with tips and tricks on how to get her children to listen.
"Your videos are soo helpful I'm a first time mom to my boy who is about to be one I'm so nervous for the toddler stage,"
"Waaait. I need you," added another.
In it, she asks, “Do you want to know why your kids don’t listen until you yell and lose your [expletive]?” Her explanation is extremely shocking to parents, which might be why it has over five million views.
While she explained that she's not pointing her finger at parents or blaming them, she said that "kids will continue to do what works."
This comes from their nature of needing to "push boundaries until boundaries are found."
"If you ask nicely, give multiple reminders until you finally lose your [expletive], they learn that they won't need to listen when you ask the first time."
Pretty mind-blowing, huh?
Thankfully, Slighthman has a better solution for parents: "If you want to stop this cycle, we have to learn how to set concrete, clear, and consistent boundaries." The 3 C's!
She also said that parents need to work on strategies to help them avoid yelling. It all comes down to this: "Shifting your parenting to shift your child's behavior."
She also has a 12-week online coaching program for parents called The Parenting Purpose Method.
“It is my methodology which guides parents to create battle-free days with their kids," she told Bored Panda.
"No yelling, anger, punishment or guilt! Finally having kids who listen, cooperate, and act respectfully in a non-combative way!”
Given how mind-blowing the information was, Tia got millions of comments from viewers.
"Simply yell at the first time. problem solved," another wrote. Another asked if this would work with a "man-child."
"I cried watching this because I've been trying to stop yelling. it's so hard," wrote one person.
Another picked up yelling from their own parents: "I grew up in a yelling household and I have definitely carried that over into my parenting."
"This doesn't work with my nearly 3-year-old. I've tried. Believe me. I've tried. Yelling works; nothing else does."
Thankfully, Tia's tips can help. To learn more, you can check out her TikTok.
Do you think it is doable or do you find it impossible?
Either way, let us know down below in the comment section! We would love to hear from you!
