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Conflicted Bride Seeks Advice Over Her Mom's Decision To Wear Super 'Bridal' Dress To Wedding

Lex Gabrielle 18 Jun 2019

Many women look forward to their wedding day. Some women plan their weddings from the time they are a little girl. Some want the fairy-tale evening — with big dresses and flowers all over. Others opt for a smaller, more intimate occasion. While both are wonderful in their own ways, we all know that the day is one that every bride will remember forever.

While planning our dream wedding, our friends and family come into play.

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We always look to our friends and our family to help us plan our special day. From picking out our flowers to our dress, to making seating charts and music selections — we always get by with a little help from our friends.

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But, sometimes, we run into conflict.

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Everyone knows that during wedding planning, we can butt heads with our fiancé and sometimes, even our families. Not every mother and father is supportive and helpful, and sometimes even our friends cause some issues.

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Recently, one bride turned to Reddit for advice on her mother's dress choice.

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The golden rule of wedding attire from guests and family has always been: never wear white. As white is usually the color worn by the bride, many guests know to stay away from anything in that color zone.

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If you've ever been to a wedding as a guest, you know it can be tricky territory when it comes to choosing an outfit.

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There are other traditional rules besides not wearing white, such as not wearing any variation of white like ivory, and no wearing black.

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And, of course, you don't want to upstage the bride in any way.

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So wearing a similar style dress or one that is super vibrant or busy with patterns might make some heads turn, and not in a positive way.

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The Mother of the Bride dress is almost as important as the bride's own wedding down.

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It's a very special day for a mother whose daughter is getting married, and it's definitely tradition for the mother to wear something fit for a Hollywood red carpet or glamorous ball.

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A Mother of the Bride dress should complement their daughter's wedding gown.

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However, choosing a Mother of the Bride dress also comes with its own etiquette rules.

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Like traditional wedding guest dress code, a Mother of the Bride gown shouldn't overpower or upstage their daughter's own wedding dress.

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The bride's mother should consult her daughter about her dress choice, since it's her wedding day and all.

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Normally, there is no issue.

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Usually the bride and mom come to an easy agreement to find a suitable Mother of the Bride dress that suits the mother's comfort level and complements the bride's style.

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But, this mother of the bride wanted to wear a pretty "bridal" type dress.

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The bride wrote into Reddit for help, asking what she should do about her own mother's choice. She said, "Mother of the Bride Outfit Dilemma- MoB wants to wear it to my wedding, but I don’t know if it is too bridal."

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She even shared a photo of the dress in question.

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The dress is definitely on the more "bridal" side. It's white with light color flowers of gray and pink. And, while it's not the first thing you think of when you hear "wedding dress," it definitely has a bridal element to it.

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It's plain to see why the bride was a bit unhappy.

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A wedding day should be seamless and stress-free, not a day of worrying if your mother will look too bridal in your photos. Let's face it, the dress is a bit of a stretch for a MOB.

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People on Reddit were in full agreement that the dress was too bridal.

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Moonbeam675 stated: "That would be too bridal for me. It’s a mixture of the volume of white and the taffeta layer which takes it into the bridal territory."

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craysey added: "It’s a very white, formal dress. I can see a low-key bride definitely wearing this to a courthouse ceremony. You may be fine with it, but a lot of your other guests would probably side-eye, form opinions or gossip without knowing you gave the okay. I just don’t see any good coming from wearing white to a wedding for anyone."

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Another user stated that they could definitely see a bride wearing this dress.

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heartrabbit chimed in and said: "I could imagine some brides wearing something like this, so to me it is too bridal. It’s mostly white with just a few colored areas, plus the layers of material in the skirt give it quite a formal and bridal effect."

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"It may be borderline, but if it bothers you, I’d encourage your mom to wear something else.

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"She has plenty of other options out there to choose from, and she certainly doesn’t need to wear something that you don’t feel 100% comfortable with."

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Some Reddit users said, regardless if the dress is too bridal, if the bride is unhappy she has every right to be.

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Simply put, user mari-mango said: "I don’t think it’s very bridal, other than being white. In fact, I think it’s very mother-y?? If it were my mom, it wouldn’t bother me. If it does bother you that’s your right though!"

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In the end, the bride decided to be honest with her mother.

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The bride wrote back to some users and said: "I ended up telling her that it wasn’t my first choice, but that if she felt comfortable in it and felt pretty that that was all I cared about. The more I thought about it, the more I realized I was kinda worried for selfish reasons."

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She just wants her mom to feel good and be happy on her wedding day.

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She continued: "All that matters is at the end of the day, I’ll be married to my love. So, I told her today that I’m fine with her wearing the outfit and happy for her. If my mom gets to wear a dress that makes her happy, win-win." How sweet!

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