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People Who Have Had ‘Friends’ Stab Them In The Back Tell Their Stories

Being betrayed by a friend is a heartbreaking pain, that can take years to get over — if at all. When you place your trust in someone, having them disregard that trust and stab you in the back can lead to commitment issues and general insecurities. Whether you're a child or an adult, no one wants to be stabbed in the back.

Well, one person took to Reddit to find out some of the most gut-wrenching stories that people had about being stabbed in the back by a "friend", by asking, "People who have had 'friends' stab you in the back, what is the story?"

Below are a collection of some of the most shocking and painful stories that people had to share.

Abandoning Them After Losing A Parent

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"Best friend stopped talking to me after my dad died. Took the whole friend group with him. Apparently I was 'too emotional'

"I was 13. Having my entire friend group walk away from me when I was in such a shitty place stuck with me forever." — genericname619

A tragically heartbreaking one to start off with. Not only losing a parent at such a young age but to feel so alone at that time must have been immensely difficult. Children can be so cruel at times.

Lying About Assault

"I had a best friend that I knew for 16 yrs. She got pregnant and her parents tried to kick her out. Her parents wanted her to get an abortion but she refused. One of our HS friends told me someone should push her down a flight of stairs so she can miscarry. I told her that's a very bad idea and defended my best friend. The next day, the principal came by my class to ask me if I could attend a meeting about something important. If I didn't attend, I was going to be expelled. When I arrived at the meeting, our shared friend claimed I was going to shove my best friend down flights of stairs so she can miscarry. My best friend believed her. We stopped talking after that." — usagi1288

This is completely messed up. Tragically, they went on to write that their family did not believe that she didn't say the things. Things are better now, she wrote, but it still hurts that her family didn't have her back at the time.

Bailed On At The Movies

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"Made plans to go see a movie with my friends for my 16th birthday and planned it weeks in advance. Everybody bailed the day before/of but I decided to still go see the movie.

"Ran into my whole group of friends leaving the movie theater while buying popcorn." — Sweetzombjesus

Apparently, the movie they were going to see was Underworld, and they walked passed him as he waited in line for the showing after the one that his "friends" had been in. Hopefully, this person has better friends now!

Writing Someone A Suicide Note

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"In 7th grade, she wrote a 10-page letter on all the reasons I should kill myself and had all but one of my friends sign in agreement after I confided in her that I felt like something was wrong with me (early undiagnosed depression - go figure).

"The day she gave it to me was arguably the worst day of my life at the point because my parents told my sister and me that they were considering divorce, and my grandmother died." — HidingWhoIAm5683

Fortunately, this one has a happy ending. This person wrote an update to say that their parents ended up staying together and that they have been in therapy for years and are doing much better. Also, they said that all but one of these people has since apologized to her.

Left Without A Flat

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"Asked two of my friends if they wanted to live together in college. Then one of them asked another person in our friend group if he wanted to join in as well. Then they asked another...and another. And then once there were too many people for one apartment, they dropped me out of it. No longer 'friends' with any of them. Was kinda a wake-up call though because I definitely gave way too much of myself to those people not knowing that I was the most expendable one." — Sighborgninja

Thankfully, this person went on to write that they learned a lot from this experience about not putting people on a pedestal when they don't deserve it. It is important to look after yourself and surround yourself with people who really care about you.

Take Take Take

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"We (my husband and I) had a friend that we helped get back on his feet. Paid off some tickets he had. Got his license reinstated. Hooked him up with a solid connection for a reasonable, well-running car to replace his beater...AND gave him a place to live and a job (automotive repair).

"He decided it was a better choice to tell all our customers we were overcharging them (spoiler: we weren’t) and he’d do the jobs cheaper if they’d bring it to him at his house (this was a short time after he moved out of our house, after never repaying anything he owed us. Not that we’d asked). Broke my heart...." — NakedKittyAlucard

They posted a comment explaining that the guy still drops by their shop every now and then, acting as though nothing happened. They wrote that "hate is like drinking poison thinking the other person will die", however, they did add that some wounds never heal.

Torpedoing Friends Chances Of Getting Into Medical School

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"Years ago when I did a health sciences undergraduate degree, most of the cohort was determined to get into medical school. [...] Many of my friends were great - we shared tips, resources, practiced exams and interviews together. But there were a handful who really wanted to get into medical school, and since the program ranks applicants mainly based on undergraduate results, the better your friends perform, the lower your ranking is for selection.

"So near application time, some of us would head off to the university library to borrow out textbooks to find chapters or page numbers that the lecturer mentioned would be on the exam. And they would be ripped out [...] I didn't believe that someone from our cohort did it until interview practice began. Students began obtaining copies of the questions from previous years and lying when others asked if they had it. I saw someone give a terrible, awful interview answer and the other student would give them glowing feedback and inform them they should say that, word-for-word, during the interview." — manlikerealities

Cheating With Son's Godfather

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"Had a good bud of mine, who's the godfather of my son, living with me and my wife. I travel a lot for work and was out of the country for about 6 months in the Middle East. Came back and found out she was pregnant, with twins, and that they weren't mine." — Nephilimelohim

In responding to a comment, this person wrote that they couldn't help blaming themself for the affair and that it took them a long time to get over it. Nobody forced them to have the affair, it was their own horrible choice to make, and this person will be better without that toxic relationship in his life.

Stabbed In The Back By Your Mother

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"My mother told me she was sick of being with dad. She told me a bunch of things he'd done which made her afraid of him. She asked me to tell a few of her close friends about how she was being treated because she wanted them to understand why she was leaving.

"Then she decided to stay with him. So she told her friends that she had no idea what was wrong with me, but they should pray for me because it looked like I was going through something. My own mother stabbed me in the back." — tallavery

This sounds like this person's mother may have been experiencing some issues with her mental health. This is a very manipulative thing to do to a child; being manipulated by a parent can be a uniquely difficult and damaging situation that can leave you with lingering trust issues, however, therapy can help.

Not Turning Up To Events Without Warning

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"I booked a table for 6 people to watch a sports event at a bar. I tell them so. All 5 friends say OK we will be there. No one shows up or even has the decency call or text that they were not coming." — bjrni

This sort of thing can be infuriating. If you're making plans with a friend, then you turn up! Or, you at the very least, have the decency explain why you can't make it!

Setting Their "Best Friend" Up To Be Mugged

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"My 'best friend' and I worked together for 3 years at a restaurant. She started dating this guy at work who was slowly becoming a drug addict [...] After he f*cked up for the 10th time in a week and started nodding out at the sink, he was fired by my boss on a Saturday.

The following Monday night, at closing time, he came in the backdoor wearing a ski mask. I was walking towards the front door to lock it when I was grabbed from behind and felt something cold against my neck. It took me a second to realize it was a knife. He said "get me the money" [...]

"They find the guy and he rats her out on the set up (the 'set up' was her texting him an all-clear when only she and I were in the building) He didn't have to though, she quit the next day. And stopped replying to my texts. When I found out I was heartbroken. This is someone who was around my kids regularly. I was diagnosed with extreme anxiety and PTSD after being robbed and still have flashbacks" — itsheatheragain

Not Invited To the Birthday Party

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"Friend told me they weren’t doing anything for their birthday. On the day of their birthday, photos appeared on Facebook of them out with the rest of our friends. They’re not my friends anymore." — Dio_Dragon

While not being invited to a birthday party can seem like a childish worry, it is a very real pain. By choosing to not invite someone, you are fundamentally judging them as a person, and it can hurt to be thought of as such by people who are supposed to be your friends.

Spreading Lies

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"I had one friend. I was bullied by everyone at elementary school. Because my friend would be bullied too when they hung out with me at school, we only played outside of school. One day a popular kid asked to play with me during recess. I was ecstatic! Until after a while they said 'You're not as bad as [friend] said you are'. And that's how I learned WHY I was bullied." — ArishaSmile

This is a real betrayal, and so cruel. Apparently, they stayed friends with this person because they were lonely still. They eventually moved, thankfully, and got away from this cruel person.

Sexually Abusing Someone

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"When I was 11 I attended a new school, and I became friends with these girls who were really nice to me. I was the only foreigner in the class and it was a bit difficult for me to adjust, so I was grateful that some students were being welcomed. They invited me to a sleepover to celebrate one girl’s birthday, and they sexually assaulted me by groping me and trying to forcibly undress me despite my protests. Obviously, I was massively disturbed, and after that, I kept my distance. Then they had the audacity to ask why I was ignoring them. I don’t know, because you clearly have no respect for me or my bodily autonomy?" — GlowIsCliche

Suffering this sort of trauma as a child can have long-lasting effects on your mental wellbeing. And, although it can be difficult to admit to having suffered something like this, it is important to tell people, even if it is someone on an anonymous helpline or a therapist, as talking about it can be the first step in moving passed something.

Using A Friend As A Scapegoat For Child Pornography

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"I was medically discharged from the Army 6 years ago. I met the woman who'd be the mother to my child and settled down with them, very happy... About a year later I get a call from a guy that was basically the father I never had [...]

"He asked if I could be a character witness at court, where he was accused of downloading child porn on his laptop. The CP was definitely on his computer, but that's not something I knew him to do. Of course I agreed to go. [...]

"Turns out he needed a scapegoat. He was found not guilty, and all it cost was my reputation. Everyone I served with now thinks I downloaded child porn on his computer. Which lead to crippling depression, and major trust issues making it impossible for me to get close to people." — atreestump1

Beating Someone Up

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"For several years, I was best friends with two other girls in my elementary school. We always hung out together at school and outside of school. When I was 10, I befriended a nice boy in my class and rumors started circling that he was my boyfriend (he was not). However, they got jealous that I was spending time with him and befriended some kids who liked to tease me.

"Then, word got around that I had started my period and apparently this was HILARIOUS and also conclusive proof that I could no longer be friends with them, so one day after school those girls and their new friends ganged up on me and tried to beat me up to signal the end of our friendship." — GlowIsCliche

This person also ended up moving away — and while it was not as a result of this directly, it is always sad when a child has to move away from their home town.

Finding Religion

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"My best friend since fourth grade, called her my soul sister. I genuinely was so grateful to have what I thought our friendship was. She fell on hard times, got weirdly religious, and stopped working while going to a private uni. I was always there for her, shoulder to cry on, visited her all the time because she didn’t have any friends and I knew she was lonely, helped her with groceries and rent, helped her family out.

"One day she came over and after buying her groceries, she told me a higher power has been telling her to cut me off for two years and she had to listen. Now she wants to be friends again. Issa hard nope from me dawg." — rayrayyy213


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"My wife said she needed some time for herself so she went to stay at her mom's for a while. One day I went to pick up my kids and walked in on her and my best friend having sex.

"Turns out it had been going on for a while and she knew him before she knew me (which I had no clue about)." — LonesomeHebrew

Being betrayed by your significant other is painful enough without it being with your best friend. This person wrote that they have a new wife who they love very much now.

Spreading Gossip

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"A 'quiet' girl I made 'friends' with would only sit with me in class just so she can go snitch about me to my ex-friends. She would literally sit next to me for one or two classes(randomly) then go sit with them(later). I called her out on it after she came to sit next to me and told her 'why do you even bother sitting with me when we both know you're just trying to get sh*t to talk about me with Them. When I come back from the bathroom you better go sit somewhere else.' I was usually very quiet and that was the first time I stood up for myself." — elizzzzzabethqq

It is important to stand up for yourself, people like this don't deserve your time and you should never be afraid to stand up for yourself in these instances!

Lying About Sexual Assault

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"He accused me of sexually assaulting his younger sister who was basically my little sister too, at the time. It’s completely false and it’s the most mind-boggling thing that’s ever happened to me." — DJaay11

They wrote that the reason they think he did this was to end the friendship. These kind of lies can truly damage a persons life for good; and, being at the heart of a lie like this can also take a toll on a person's mental health as well.

While these stories may seem bleak, there are good people out there, and finding true friends who value you can be fantastically rewarding! Don't give up hope on true friendship!