Did I go too far when I told my brother he got what he deserved?

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What happens when a man becomes paranoid that his girlfriend is only interested in his money? A lot of auditions and tests, apparently. But when the girlfriend finally calls it quits, is it really her fault? One Reddit user shared the story of her brother's relationship and his obsession with making sure his girlfriend wasn't a gold digger. However, when his tactics backfired and she decided to leave him, he called her a b-word and turned to his sister for support. But when she called him out on his behavior, things turned ugly. Was the sister right to tell him he got what he deserved? Or is it understandable to want to protect your assets in a relationship? Read on for the full story.

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When does being cautious become paranoia?

Is it wrong to test and audition your partner to see if they are with you for the right reasons? In a recent incident, a man's paranoia about his girlfriend using him for his wealth led him to go to extreme lengths to test her loyalty. When the tests proved his suspicions, he confronted her, leading to a breakup. While the man believes he was being cautious, his brother, who is close to the now-ex-girlfriend, believes he went too far. Join the debate on whether it's okay to test your partner's loyalty and how far is too far in the comments below.

Brother's testing behavior towards partners is a red flag. 🚩

Veritas_man | Veritas_man

NTA, brother is the only a-hole. She saved up for those things 💰💸

Comrad1984 | Comrad1984

NTA for calling out brother's gold digging behavior 🤑💰

KyonaAidoneus | KyonaAidoneus

Commenter and replies criticize man's terrible personality and dating approach 💩

yourlittlebirdie | yourlittlebirdie

NTA for calling out brother's unfair treatment of girlfriend 💍

Evil_Mel | Evil_Mel

Paying $500 for dinner? Not cool bro, NTA.

ladyk1487 | ladyk1487

NTA. Brother's approach was wrong. Flowers are not custom orders 💐

HellblazerHawk | HellblazerHawk

Comment thread roasts brother's financial literacy and ego.

J0sey_W4les_23 | J0sey_W4les_23

Money can't buy class, and this person is NTA 💰🚫

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The tables have turned. Who's the real gold digger?

Speedywins | Speedywins

NTA. Your brother sounds like a gold digger 🤔

AlexisRosesHands | AlexisRosesHands

Agreeing with the NTA comment about absurd tests and reality check 👍

Twolegging | Twolegging

Sad truth about gold diggers in dating. 🤑

Cevanne46 | Cevanne46

Savage but true 👀💰 Your brother needs a reality check.

WayiiTM | WayiiTM

Winning a stupid prize for playing a stupid game 🎉

Nintendo67 | Nintendo67

Support for not being the a**hole for brother's mental issues ❤️

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Commenter questions if brother truly 'got what he deserved'.

QuantityJaded | QuantityJaded

When gift giving goes too far 💸😬

fruitynutcase | fruitynutcase

Setting traps in a relationship? Not the a**hole for speaking up 👀

SwiggyBloodlust | SwiggyBloodlust

Brother flaunts wealth over ex-girlfriend, NTA for supporting her. 💰

ChaosComet | ChaosComet

The sad truth about being paranoid of gold diggers ❌

privlaged-and-white | privlaged-and-white

Commenter slams man, predicts bad love life. 😲

IndicaRain | IndicaRain

Don't be a bridge troll! Seek help for trust issues 🌉👹

zimson-995 | zimson-995

Paranoid brother accuses genuine connection of 'gold digging' 🙄

formercitycouncilady | formercitycouncilady

Forging a friendship with the sane one - NTA! 🤝

ieya404 | ieya404

Brother's entitled behavior called out in scathing comment. 💥

Stw_Reylla | Stw_Reylla

Dodged a bullet and gained a friend, NTA wins 👍

NJrose20 | NJrose20

Agreeing with the commenter that it's impossible to change minds. 🤷‍♀️

HaratoBarato | HaratoBarato

Taking down a sexist brother 💪🏼👊🏼

Ann3Nym | Ann3Nym

Is he a gold digger? 🤔

Enimbis | Enimbis

Learning to communicate is key. NTA. Hope ex finds happiness ❤️

synesthesiah | synesthesiah

Call out toxic behavior 👀🚫

DazedandConfused8406 | DazedandConfused8406

A lesson in gold diggers. 💰

DrFluffpants | DrFluffpants

Commenter shares interesting observation about entitled behavior 👀

Vormittags | Vormittags

Supportive reply to calling out toxic behavior, NTA 🙌

MamaFen | MamaFen

Satisfying revenge plan with NTA judgement 👀🔥

Fofieeeeeee | Fofieeeeeee

Brother gets luxury, sister gets nothing: who's the gold digger? 💰

Sfb208 | Sfb208

The commenter suspects the ex-boyfriend was playing a power game 🤔.

2ndcupofcoffee | 2ndcupofcoffee

Encouraging someone to dodge a bullet 💥

Tractorfeed1008 | Tractorfeed1008

Commenter defends OP and calls out brother's bad attitude 💁‍♀️

thedaybefore1 | thedaybefore1

Not the a**hole - but what did your brother do? 🤔

whatwhatwhat78 | whatwhatwhat78

Brother deserved it 👍 NTA wins this round 🎉

Annerkind | Annerkind

Brother's emotional tests backfire. NTA for calling him out.

JCBashBash | JCBashBash

Commenter criticizes brother's behavior, suggests it attracts con artists.

staffsargent | staffsargent

Is the 'restaurant test' unfair to women? NTA thinks so 🍽️💰

mahfrogs | mahfrogs

Uncovering the reason behind the brother's behavior 👀

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