Father refuses to include ex-wife's children in his family trips

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A father, Dave, has two children, and they stay with him for a week and their mother for the other week. They also spend more time with him during the summer because he has a beach house that they enjoy. However, Dave's ex-wife remarried and had more children with her new husband. They are upset that their children are not experiencing the same things as Dave's children, and Dave feels guilty. He sends his kids a weekly allowance, and this has caused arguments with their half-siblings. Dave got his son a Switch and clothes for Christmas, while his daughter got a new camera and MacBook. Their mother called and had a frank conversation about making their siblings feel excluded. Dave does not feel comfortable including them in their trips and gifts, and his children should not have to hide their joy or possessions. Is Dave the A-hole?

Meet Dave and his two kids, Sara and Alex 😎

sweetandlowlife | sweetandlowlife

Co-parenting success despite family trip disagreement 👨🏻‍💻

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Beach house bonding with dad but no room for step-siblings 😔

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Exclusive family trip sparks conflict between divorced parents

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Step-siblings left out: Father's family trips causing hurt feelings 😔

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Kids excluded from family trips; financial situation causing tension. 😔

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Weekly allowance causes family tension and arguments 💸

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Generous dad gifts son IOU for PS5 and more on Christmas

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Father spoils daughter but neglects stepchildren on family trips

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Inclusive parenting is key to avoid sibling rivalry 😊

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Ex-husband denies ex-wife's kids a chance to experience beach life 🏖️

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Divorced dad refuses to take ex-wife's kids on trips 😕

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Father defends decision to exclude ex-wife's children from trips 🧳

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Father defends son's right to not share switch at ex-wife's house 🎮

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Disney trip causes drama between divorced parents 🎢✨

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Ex-wife wants kids on family trips, but is it fair? 🤔

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Daughter's new car causing drama for father and ex-wife

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Ex-wife complains about father not including her kids in trips

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Finding middle ground: A peace offering for excluded children 🤝

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Co-parenting wins: Ex-wife's kids get a Nintendo switch 🎮

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Co-parenting win! Father includes kids in family trips post-divorce 👍

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Father excludes stepchildren, offers to pay for games as compromise 💰

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Ex-husband's bf upset over Target trip with Sara's kids 🤔

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OP receives helpful advice on excluding ex-wife's children from trips.

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Grateful for the advice on excluding ex's kids on trips 💕

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Why this father doesn't include his ex-wife's children?

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Siblings excluded from family trips? Here's a solution ✌️

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Exclusion of ex-wife's children from family trips explained. 🚫👨‍👧‍👦

sweetandlowlife | sweetandlowlife

Father excludes ex-wife's children from family trips for safety reasons

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Father prioritizes son's age and practicality over ex-wife's children.

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Father refuses to take ex-wife's children on family trips 😭

Dave, a 44-year-old father, is facing a dilemma on whether or not to include his ex-wife's children on his family trips. Dave's kids, 16-year-old Sara and 14-year-old Alex, stay with their mother for one week and with Dave for another week, except for the summers when they go to Dave's beach house. Dave's ex-wife remarried and had more children, and they have never been on vacation or had the same experiences as Dave's kids. Dave's ex-wife wants him to include her children on the trips, but Dave is hesitant because he doesn't feel responsible for them and doesn't want his kids to hide their joy or possessions. Dave's son also refuses to share his switch with his step-siblings. Dave's ex-wife thinks that not including her children is damaging her kids mentally. Dave is seeking advice on whether or not he is the asshole for not including his ex-wife's children on his trips. Read on to see what advice he gets from Redditors.

The debate over Santa and presents, but let's not forget the real issue.

shoxford | shoxford

NTA for not including ex-wife's kids on family trips 🚶‍♂️💼👨‍👧‍👦, and giving extra allowance to Sara 💰👍

doodleboopen | doodleboopen

Ex-wife's children are not OP's financial responsibility. NTA.

LucidOutwork | LucidOutwork

Ex-wife's poor decision-making causes family tension and financial disparity.

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No obligation to ex's kids, but considerate actions can mend relationships.

realghostofchaos | realghostofchaos

Sibling love triumphs over unfairness in gift-giving. 💕

PancakeWomen2000 | PancakeWomen2000

Blended family dynamics: NTA for not including ex's kids. 🤝

MoonLover10792 | MoonLover10792

Protecting his children's lifestyle, father needs to talk it out. 💬

Flocceenaucee | Flocceenaucee

Ex-wife punishing kids for her choices, NTA for excluding them 🙅‍♂️👨‍👧‍👦

Alert-Potato | Alert-Potato

Navigating economic disparity and jealousy in blended families 👍

Practical_Heart7287 | Practical_Heart7287

No obligation to ex-wife's children on family trips. NTA 🙅‍♂️

siddles95 | siddles95

Excluding ex-wife's children from trips: NTA, but parenting problems arise 👍

christina0001 | christina0001

Prioritizing your own children's needs doesn't make you an a**hole 🙅‍♂️

SoValkyrieMama | SoValkyrieMama

No obligation to include ex's kids on family trips. NTA 💼

Blue_winged_yoshi | Blue_winged_yoshi

Father not responsible for ex-wife's children, but may cause resentment.

Ryuloulou | Ryuloulou

Divorced father considers full custody, but ex-wife wants to raise kids. 🤔

Delicious_Archer_273 | Delicious_Archer_273

Father refuses to take ex-wife's kids on trips, commenters suggest adjustments.

Confident_Storm_4884 | Confident_Storm_4884

Father defends his decision, commenters disagree on sharing etiquette 🤝💼

amberwaves83 | amberwaves83

Co-parenting concerns arise over excluding ex-wife's children from trips.

CarpeCyprinidae | CarpeCyprinidae

Exes not bound to make new spouse's kids happy. 👍

Morrigan-71 | Morrigan-71

Ex-wife's kids not his responsibility, weird to insist on inclusion 🤔

NottheNSA94 | NottheNSA94

Divorced parents' conflicting material expectations cause tension and disagreement. 🤔

amjay8 | amjay8

NTA - Father prioritizes his kids, ex-wife needs to manage jealousy 💁‍♂️

upthecreekwthnocanoe | upthecreekwthnocanoe

Co-parenting communication is key, but NTA for treating your own kids.

Silverstream367 | Silverstream367

Step siblings on family trips: legal obligation or personal choice? 🤔

Dark_Phoenix25 | Dark_Phoenix25

Father takes no blame for ex-wife's financial situation. 🤷‍♂️

wedtog2020 | wedtog2020

Showing empathy towards half-siblings is important, but no obligation. NTA

gonzojeff | gonzojeff

Father considers having his ex-wife's children move in full-time.

trishlopez1 | trishlopez1

Blended family dynamics: NTA for excluding ex-wife's children from trips 💼👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

Mysterious-System680 | Mysterious-System680

No obligation to include ex's kids in family trips. NTA 👍

semerien | semerien

Ex-wife's entitled children? Not your problem anymore! 🙅‍♂️

GSstreetfighter | GSstreetfighter

Set boundaries and prioritize your own family's vacation time 🏖️

CajunKC | CajunKC

Parenting priorities and gift-giving goals 🎁👪

FancyPantsMead | FancyPantsMead

Considerate suggestion for a potentially toxic family situation 🙏

momo10567 | momo10567

Divorced parent shares experience of not owing ex-wife's children anything 🤷‍♂️

jeall0 | jeall0

Avoiding drama over fairness, NTA for excluding ex's children 🙅

Lovegivingadvice | Lovegivingadvice

Ex-wife expects ex-husband to include her new kids. NTA.

fromhelley | fromhelley

Suggests small gesture of kindness for ex-wife's children, NTA.

Jxb1000 | Jxb1000

Financial responsibility for step-siblings debated. NTA.

Neravariine | Neravariine

Boundaries with ex's new kids? NTA sets the record straight 🙅‍♂️

Eelpan2 | Eelpan2

Step siblings get lavish gifts, commenter learns to let go. 💻🎁

pokegirl395 | pokegirl395

Supporting his own children doesn't make him responsible for ex's.

Flat_Summer | Flat_Summer

Your kids, your responsibility. 🙅‍♂️ Keep the peace with ex.

_Bisclavert | _Bisclavert

No obligation to include ex-wife's new kids. Case closed. 🤷‍♂️

Altruistic-Calendar1 | Altruistic-Calendar1

Don't sweat it, NTA. 🙌

kermitstarr27 | kermitstarr27

Prioritizing your own kids over step siblings - NTA 👍

Professional_Lion713 | Professional_Lion713

Supportive comment for father who excludes ex-wife's children 🙌

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Personal property boundaries respected in split family dynamics 🚫👨‍👦

mort-er | mort-er

Stepchildren not your responsibility. NTA, case closed. 👍

spicybEtch212 | spicybEtch212

Exclusion of ex-wife's children on trips sparks discussion on resentment

DW_Wishmaster | DW_Wishmaster

Don't let jealousy rob your kids of opportunities 👨‍👧‍👦✨

Eened | Eened

Gifts are implicit parenting decisions, discuss with co-parents! ❌👍

schottenring | schottenring

Father prioritizes his own kids over ex-wife's children. NTA.

VitalityVixen | VitalityVixen

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