Woman asks parents to pay back college tuition for relationship

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A woman shares her story of being raised in a household with rigid gender roles, where her education was not valued. Her parents paid for her brothers' college but refused to pay for hers. She secretly applied and was accepted with a partial scholarship, but had to work and take on debt to finish her degree. After years of barely speaking to her parents, they asked for a relationship. She asked for an apology and a specific explanation of why they were sorry. When they wouldn't elaborate, she asked for the same amount of money they spent on her brothers' college expenses. Her demand resulted in tears and accusations of being immature from her brothers. Read on to find out what happened next.

Breaking gender norms: One woman's struggle for education and independence

daisychained89 | daisychained89

Strained relationship with parents over college tuition and domestic roles.

daisychained89 | daisychained89

Privileged upbringing leads to entitled request for tuition reimbursement.

daisychained89 | daisychained89

Secretly applied for college against parents' wishes, received partial scholarship.

daisychained89 | daisychained89

Struggling engineer asks parents to repay college tuition for relationship

daisychained89 | daisychained89

Rekindling family ties after years of estrangement and pain

daisychained89 | daisychained89

Woman demands $100k tuition refund from unapologetic parents 💸

daisychained89 | daisychained89

Woman faces backlash for asking parents to pay for tuition 💰

daisychained89 | daisychained89

Woman demands parents to pay back college tuition 💰

A woman describes her upbringing in a household that believed in rigid gender roles, leading to her parents not valuing her education. After secretly applying and getting accepted to college, she was forced to take on debt and struggle while her brothers had their tuition, books, and living expenses fully covered. Years later, her parents apologize for causing her pain but refuse to specify how they did so. The woman asks for $100k in reimbursement, like her brothers received, to prove their sincerity. Her request leads to a heated argument with her parents and backlash from her brothers. Read on for the reactions to this controversial demand.

NTA! Congrats on your accomplishments and standing up to bigotry 🎉

HelenDamnnation | HelenDamnnation

NTA, reasonable request for repayment from unsupportive parents with ulterior motives.

OuchLOLcom | OuchLOLcom

Unfair treatment of woman by parents, NTA for asking reparations. 👍

BaconFaceHappyPants | BaconFaceHappyPants

NTA. Despite a difficult upbringing, she persevered to become an engineer. Her parents failed to acknowledge her hard work and bravery. She proved she wanted it, and now they're suddenly interested because she's pregnant and fulfilling an expected gender role. Stand firm and continue to live life by your own principles.

Mission_Spray | Mission_Spray

Commenter shows support for OP and calls out entitled family members 💪

[deleted] | [deleted]

Woman rightfully demands college tuition from neglectful parents and brothers 💰

SilenceConnoisseur | SilenceConnoisseur

Woman seeks apology and restitution from parents for gender discrimination.

Trasl0 | Trasl0

Pushing sexism on grandchild? 🤔 Grandparents are TA.

fatapolloissexy | fatapolloissexy

Sibling support for tuition repayment sparks hope 👍

gdddg | gdddg

Setting boundaries and achieving a degree - NTA 🎓👏

Stw_Reylla | Stw_Reylla

Financial ties may pressure relationships. ESH. 💰🤝😒

[deleted] | [deleted]

Demanding accountability from parents who favored siblings. 🔍

grw313 | grw313

Female engineer shares similar experience, supports OP's decision. 💪


Demanding tuition for relationship: fair or not? 🤔

FlyingPuebloEscobar | FlyingPuebloEscobar

Commenter calls out toxic parenting behavior, supported by replies.

UberToSchool | UberToSchool

Standing up for yourself and setting boundaries. 💪🏼

[deleted] | [deleted]

Setting boundaries and consequences for parents' favoritism. 🚫👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

ChuckUFarley74988 | ChuckUFarley74988

Supportive comment and solidarity with OP for fair treatment. ❤

[deleted] | [deleted]

Universal philosophy on atonement shared, parents' actions not mature.

haemaker | haemaker

Demanding college tuition back after unsupportive parents. Fair or not?

[deleted] | [deleted]

Family values should extend to equal treatment of their children. 🎓

the_last_basselope | the_last_basselope

Eloped without parents, now asking for tuition repayment. 🤔

GTdeSade | GTdeSade

Parental misogyny sparks debate in college tuition dispute 🤔

NotHisRealName | NotHisRealName

Supportive comment suggests therapy to set boundaries with uncaring parents 🙏

ConsistentCheesecake | ConsistentCheesecake

Commenter sympathizes with OP's situation and predicts future pressure.

Moonshae295 | Moonshae295

Stand your ground! 💪 You're not immature, they're privileged.

susan2552 | susan2552

NTA, but parents might be. 🔥

[deleted] | [deleted]

Congrats on being independent! Toxic family? Keep the baby safe! 🎉

wildferalfun | wildferalfun

Sarcastic comment gets real; highlights societal sexism and bigotry. NTA.

bumbling__bee | bumbling__bee

Cutting off toxic parents. 🚫👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

[deleted] | [deleted]

Parents only value child after pregnancy, sibling doesn't care. 💔

ForDepth | ForDepth

Is a $100k check enough to excuse sexist behavior?

mercurialchemister | mercurialchemister

Demanding tuition refund from parents, justified or not? #FamilyDrama 💰

Snoo-56102 | Snoo-56102

Breaking free from toxic parents, vague apologies won't suffice ⭐️

lincra | lincra

Cutting off toxic parents: NTA takes charge of future 🚪

Froggetpwagain | Froggetpwagain

Demanding college tuition repayment with a twist 😎

idc_name | idc_name

Shiny steel spine! Protect your baby with love. #NTA ❤️

MdmeAlbertine | MdmeAlbertine

Take the money and run! 😷

MeepsG | MeepsG

Breaking free from traditional gender roles. 👩‍👧‍👦

Cayke_Cooky | Cayke_Cooky

Watch out for gender expectations post-pregnancy 👀👶

MichaelaLondon | MichaelaLondon

Parents refuse to apologize and want relationship for grandbaby's sake. NTA.

1neitherherenorthere | 1neitherherenorthere

OP's parents refuse to apologize for not supporting relationship. 💔

TooManyAnts | TooManyAnts

Cutting ties with parents over tuition - justified or extreme? 💸❌

[deleted] | [deleted]

Demanding college tuition refund- justified or too far? 💰

patrick95350 | patrick95350

Parents show conditional love, apologize not enough for unfair treatment.

Eternaljudgment | Eternaljudgment

Twin's college paid for, but I had to work. NTA. 🤬

engg_girl | engg_girl

Navigating toxic family dynamics in r/raisedbynarcissists community 🧐

princess_puffpuff | princess_puffpuff

Put yourself first! NTA for not forgiving their inadequate apology. 👏

annoyedpotatolady | annoyedpotatolady

Sibling support is important, even when parents aren't. ✊

allfun27 | allfun27

The burden of parents' bad financial choices on their children 😔💸

mrsproffessormdesq | mrsproffessormdesq

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