Father divides chores between daughters, but is he being unfair?

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A father's attempt to split household chores equally between his two daughters has caused a rift in his family. While his older daughter, Sadie, was not contributing to the household, her younger sister, Hannah, was doing her part despite having school, homework, and therapy appointments. When the father attempted to establish equality by giving Hannah the same list of chores as Sadie, tensions rose, and the family split into two teams. The father's insistence on equality has caused a rift in the family, and his wife is unhappy with his approach. Read on to find out if the father was justified in his actions or if he was the a**hole in this situation.

Is the 23-year-old daughter being unfair or ungrateful? 🤔

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Father struggles to get daughter to help with chores 🧹

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👧🏻👧🏼Dividing chores equally between siblings - fair or not?

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One daughter's complaint about unequal workload causes family friction ⚖️

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Father's pursuit of equality causes tension over household chores. 🔥

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Father and wife disagree on favoritism in chore division 👨‍👩‍👧

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House divided! Tension rises as father divides chores unequally.

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Struggling to split chores fairly, wife refuses to compromise. AITA?

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👨‍👧‍👧 Father's quest for equality divides family 👨‍👧‍👧

A father's attempt to establish equality between his daughters has caused a rift in the family. After assigning his older daughter, who is not currently working, a list of chores, the younger daughter was also given a list of equal length. However, the younger daughter argues that she has school, piano lessons, homework, and therapy appointments, while the older daughter has more free time. The father argues that it's all about equality, while the stepmother argues that the daughters have different routines and responsibilities. The argument escalated, and tensions in the house rose to the point where the family is now split into two teams. The father is asking for opinions on whether he's being an a**hole for trying to establish equality, while the stepmother is accusing him of enabling the older daughter's irresponsible behavior. Read on to see what people have to say about this family's conflict.

OP needs to aim for equity, not equality. Sadie is an adult and should contribute to the household. Hannah has school, piano lessons, and therapy, so assigning the same responsibilities as Sadie wouldn't be fair. YTA.

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Commenter calls out unfair parenting, suggests job hunting for both daughters 💼

ChemicalParfait | ChemicalParfait

Hannah works harder than Sadie. YTA for not being fair

1962Michael | 1962Michael

Father accused of unfairness in chore distribution by commenters.

NannyBismo | NannyBismo

Daughter in school full-time and piano lessons, adult daughter lazy. YTA.

Andante79 | Andante79

Father unfairly expects equal chores from student and working daughter. YTA 🙄

CephalopodSpy | CephalopodSpy

Importance of equity in household chores explained with helpful graphic 🤝

DevilsAbicus | DevilsAbicus

Fair division of chores? One commenter says YTA for neglecting daughter's priorities.

EngineerGold5676 | EngineerGold5676

Adult daughter living at home should pay rent and contribute equally.

Nt_A_Chnc | Nt_A_Chnc

Father accused of being unfair in dividing chores between daughters.

justMe482 | justMe482

Sadie seems entitled already 🤔

jocoreddit | jocoreddit

Commenter and replies agree: YTA for not adjusting chores fairly 🤨

mrschia | mrschia

Daughters' chore distribution sparks disagreement, accusations of favoritism 👨‍👧‍👧💼

FairFinding3412 | FairFinding3412

Debate over fair division of household chores between sisters. 🤔

no_good_namez | no_good_namez

Unemployed 23-year-old daughter needs to step up her chores game 💪

RealTalkFastWalk | RealTalkFastWalk

Stepdaughter stands up to unfair treatment from lazy stepsister.

PhoenixRosehere | PhoenixRosehere

YTA unfairly prioritizes one daughter's workload over the other's.

clockwork-hound | clockwork-hound

Father unfairly divided chores between daughters, but commenter thinks YTA.

fizzbangwhiz | fizzbangwhiz

Lazy adult daughter vs. busy teenage daughter, who's YTA here?

Embarrassed_Hat_2904 | Embarrassed_Hat_2904

Commenter accuses father of unfairness in dividing chores.

Kooky-Today-3172 | Kooky-Today-3172

23yo daughter living rent-free should take most household chores, YTA 😒

Rainyday2022 | Rainyday2022

Unfair division of chores, YTA with a capital Y.

Severe-Inspection-67 | Severe-Inspection-67

One daughter works hard while the other is coddled 🤔

Crazyhowthatworks304 | Crazyhowthatworks304

Father unfairly burdening daughter with less free time. YTA. 🤔👎

Complete-Ambition385 | Complete-Ambition385

Unfair chore distribution: YTA expected too much from 15yo daughter 😒

SamSpayedPI | SamSpayedPI

Father unfairly drowning daughter in chores. YTA. 👎

Etoiaster | Etoiaster

Father unfairly assigns chores, shows favoritism towards daughter. YTA.

merianya | merianya

Father unfairly gives daughter with no responsibilities equal chores, YTA 👎

pelorizado83 | pelorizado83

Parenting gone wrong? One commenter thinks so 🤔

Nancyakb | Nancyakb

Commenter calls out lazy adult child, defends hard-working minor.

musical_spork | musical_spork

Curious about the backstory of Sadie and Hannah's chores 🤔

Impressive_Brain6436 | Impressive_Brain6436

Commenter calls out father's hypocrisy in distributing chores 🤔

Interesting-File-557 | Interesting-File-557

Gender equality in chores causes conflict. YTA dad. 🤔

NannyBismo | NannyBismo

Father accused of unfairness in chore distribution by commenter.

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Father unfairly gives daughter more chores, YTA according to comment.

Dork86 | Dork86

Father shows favoritism towards biological daughter, YTA. 😡

NalothGHalcyon | NalothGHalcyon

Fairness questioned in father's chore distribution, YTA verdict given

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Father unfairly divides chores between daughters, commenters side with wife 👩‍👧‍👧

jotstejot | jotstejot

Fair division of chores? Commenter suggests smaller tasks for Hannah.

Front_World205 | Front_World205

Commenter calls out unfairness in chore division, using YTA acronym.

PanicAtTheGaslight | PanicAtTheGaslight

Fair split of chores based on free time. YTA called out.

ttnl35 | ttnl35

Commenter argues against unfair division of chores. YTA verdict.

boogie_butt | boogie_butt

Daughter calls out father for playing favorites with chores. YTA 👀

anglerfishtacos | anglerfishtacos

Commenter calls out unfairness in chore distribution. 🤔

madoosles | madoosles

Father accused of favoring adult daughter over younger daughter's responsibilities 🤔

HunterDangerous1366 | HunterDangerous1366

Commenter accuses father of favoring entitled daughter, sparking debate 🔥

RetMilRob | RetMilRob

Equal chores for all siblings, YTA for playing favorites. 🙅‍♂️

Familiar_Season8438 | Familiar_Season8438

Commenter calls out favoritism towards older daughter. Yikes 🤯

Francie1966 | Francie1966

Daughter's not working, but YTA still dividing chores unfairly 🧐

Cool-Clerk-9835 | Cool-Clerk-9835

Allocating equal chores to both daughters isn't fair. YTA 👎

queensbeforekings | queensbeforekings

User suggests a 75/25 chore split and paying for chores.

Strict-Foundation-68 | Strict-Foundation-68

Daughters' unequal workload sparks debate. #Unfair #YTA

bertiebastard | bertiebastard

Father accused of favoritism and irresponsibility in chores distribution.

AbenaGH0209M3 | AbenaGH0209M3

Dividing chores equally is the way to go 🤝

Haunting-Knee-2324 | Haunting-Knee-2324

Stepdaughter is a student, not a full-time maid. 🧹👩‍🎓

lexi_prop | lexi_prop

Daughter accuses father of unfairness in chore division, sparks argument.

evanp36 | evanp36

Balancing chores and extracurriculars for fair distribution ✌️

Jewish-Mom-123 | Jewish-Mom-123

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