In a crowded subway, a 27-year-old woman fell asleep on her way home. She was then woken up by an elderly woman who was shouting at her face in a different language. The elderly woman repeatedly asked for her seat, but the younger woman was angry and pretended not to understand what she was saying. The younger woman usually has no problem giving up her seat to the elderly, but she got angry when the elderly woman yelled at her. This incident has been bothering her since, and she has posted on Am I the A**hole to get opinions on whether she was in the wrong or not.

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Sleepy commuter refuses seat to elderly woman. 😴🚇

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Struggle of giving up seat to elderly woman, AITA. 🤔

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A tired commuter (27F) found herself in the middle of an unexpected confrontation with an elderly woman on her train ride home. Despite her usual practice of offering her seat to those in need, the woman was woken up by the elderly woman yelling at her in a second language. Feeling angry and caught off guard, she chose to pretend not to understand and kept her seat. Now, she's left wondering if she made the right choice. Join the discussion below to share your thoughts on this controversial subway encounter.
Age doesn't excuse entitlement. NTA, but kindness to pregnant woman wins.

candiedbunion69 | candiedbunion69
Elderly woman demands seat; commenters side with exhausted poster. NTA 😜

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Falling asleep on the subway: a risky move 😴

SnooBananas5143 | SnooBananas5143
When offering your seat backfires 😂

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Standing up to entitled behavior 😏

v2den | v2den
Polite request > rude demand. 🙏 NTAs unite!

FreshwaterOctopus | FreshwaterOctopus
Woman defends not giving up subway seat to elderly woman

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NTA. Manners matter. An argument isn't worth the seat. 😤

nerothic | nerothic
Age doesn't excuse entitlement. Not the a**hole here. 👍

RayneYoruka | RayneYoruka
NTA refuses to give up seat to elderly woman, others blame her.

Johnny-Fakehnameh | Johnny-Fakehnameh
Defending the decision to not give up the seat, while criticizing others 😒

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Unapologetic response with a hint of humor 😏👌

Existing_Adeptness11 | Existing_Adeptness11
Sleeping on the subway and woke up to shouting. NTA.

bobledrew | bobledrew
Age shouldn't be the only reason to give up a seat 🚆 #NTA

DigDugDogDun | DigDugDogDun
Clarifying if the seat was reserved can make sense of situation 🤔

labelcillo | labelcillo
No one else offered their seat either 🤷♀️

Kris82868 | Kris82868
Standing up for yourself: NTA for keeping your seat 👍

DyneAmmo | DyneAmmo
Support for not giving up seat to rude elderly woman 🤷♀️

tr4shmonkey | tr4shmonkey
Challenging the notion of unquestionable respect towards the elderly 👵

Csusza7 | Csusza7
Defending not giving up subway seat to elderly woman 💺

D4rkFantasy | D4rkFantasy
Defending not giving up seat to entitled elderly woman 😏

Special-Attitude-242 | Special-Attitude-242
Common courtesy is offering a seat, not demanding it. 💺

lizfour | lizfour
Elderly woman demands subway seat, but commenter stands their ground 💺

throwyourboat1985 | throwyourboat1985
Standing up for yourself can be tough, but necessary. 🙌

Material_Nothing_530 | Material_Nothing_530
Respect is a two-way street 🙌

Plenty_Metal_1304 | Plenty_Metal_1304
Pretending not to speak the language- quick thinking! 😂 NTA

Unit-Healthy | Unit-Healthy
Avoided unnecessary argument by pretending to not understand, NTA 👍

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Defending the decision to keep subway seat - NTA 🚇

DannyIsADuck | DannyIsADuck
Age doesn't define one's ability. Commenter is a badass! 💪

StinkingDischarge | StinkingDischarge
A witty reply lightens up a situation with a rude elderly woman 😂

Pierre-LucDubois | Pierre-LucDubois
Age is just a number 🙌

MusclePositive | MusclePositive
Unapologetically keeping your subway seat 😎

swaverlys | swaverlys
Empathize with the commenter's perspective 😒

HeliosOh | HeliosOh
Using another language to say goodbye? That's a power move 😎

Spicyghosting | Spicyghosting
Choosing between values and respect for elders 🤔

maluawai | maluawai
Respectful refusal of subway seat sparks debate. 🤔

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Standing up for oneself or being rude to elders? 🤔

Post_Nuclear_Messiah | Post_Nuclear_Messiah
Quick thinking and language skills shut down entitled elderly woman.

IamPlatycus | IamPlatycus
Standing up to entitled elderly behavior. 🚆

Sergio5126 | Sergio5126
Standing up for yourself and showing restraint. 👍

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Polite refusal is okay, but yelling and bad attitude aren't.

TroubledGamestress | TroubledGamestress
Standing your ground for your subway seat. NTA 👏

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Unapologetic commenter defends not giving up subway seat 🚊

floralcheesegrader | floralcheesegrader
Standing up for yourself or being selfish? 🤔

Fritemare | Fritemare
Standing up for yourself can be the right move!👍

cecilpenny | cecilpenny
Passenger refuses to give up seat to elderly woman. NTA wins.

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Age is just a number! 😜 NTA wins this round.

sharshenka | sharshenka
Elderly woman demands seat, gets karma in return 🤷♀️

ChamomileBrownies | ChamomileBrownies
Polite request or not, commenter is NTA for keeping seat 🚇

jaxurrito | jaxurrito
Defending a subway seat: NTA, elderly woman overreacts 😑

Other_Personalities | Other_Personalities
Unpopular opinion: NTA. Respect is earned, not given. 🙅♂️

xjustbandsx | xjustbandsx
Standing your ground or being rude? 🤔 NTA comment.

DaniCapsFan | DaniCapsFan
Not the a-hole for keeping my subway seat 🚇💺

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