What would you do if your colleagues expected you to compromise on your food allergy when choosing a restaurant for a team lunch? This AITA post follows an award-winning employee who is put in a difficult position when their colleagues want to celebrate the employee's achievements and 40th birthday. Despite previous disputes about their food allergy, the employee suggests a new Indian restaurant. However, one manager has a meltdown and the other wants to go to the Chinese restaurant they always go to. With HR involved and accusations of not being prepared to compromise, the employee seeks fresh perspectives. But are they really in the wrong? Read on for the full story and updates on what happened next.
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An employee with a food allergy was faced with a tough decision when her coworkers wanted to celebrate her award and 40th birthday by going out to lunch. They usually go to a Chinese restaurant, which she's allergic to, and Janine, her manager, had a meltdown when she suggested they go to an Indian restaurant instead. The situation escalated, causing the employee to have a breakdown and take a week off work. Now she's back, but the conflict continues. Her coworkers want her to compromise and go to the Chinese restaurant, but she's worried it could kill her. She's seeking fresh perspectives and asking the internet if she's in the wrong. Despite some negative comments calling her a snowflake, she stands firm and is offered a transfer to a new team. Read on for updates on the situation.
Agreeing with comment: Janine's attitude is unacceptable in management.
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Standing up for your safety at work celebration 🙅♀️🍲
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Skipping lunch over food allergy? HR gets involved 🤣
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Stand up for your rights! Use the law to fight back 🤜💥
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Commenter suggests firing employee over food allergy - Yikes 😬
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Workplace meltdowns? 🤔 What's the culture like there? 🤷♀️
borderlineMEOWIES | borderlineMEOWIES
Celebrate your way 🎉 Others can deal with their issues. NTA.
Responsible_Dot_6055 | Responsible_Dot_6055
Commenter defends employee with food allergy from inconsiderate coworkers 🙅🏻♂️
jezebelsub | jezebelsub
Take charge and escalate the issue to upper management 💪
eazolan | eazolan
Supportive coworker stands up for food allergy rights. 🙌
i-needa-nap-pls | i-needa-nap-pls
Respecting food allergies is a must 😍
Cause-Fluid | Cause-Fluid
Suggesting Nepalese cuisine as a compromise 🍛👌
Immediate-Escalator | Immediate-Escalator
Respectful celebration location choice - NTA 🎉
Joecowboy56 | Joecowboy56
Compromising with food allergies at work celebrations 🍴✨
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Janine's behavior shocks commenters in food allergy controversy 😳
indecisive_7 | indecisive_7
Solving food allergy disputes at work events 🥗
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Employee throws tantrum over Indian food, HR excuses behavior. 🤔
Marzipan-Shepherdess | Marzipan-Shepherdess
The curious case of Janine's outburst over Indian food 🤔
Grizlatron | Grizlatron
Skip lunch altogether, they don't deserve your company 🙅
BlueRFR3100 | BlueRFR3100
Celebrate your own way! NTA for prioritizing your health 🎉👏
Readerdani | Readerdani
Celebrating YOU doesn't mean risking your life. NTA ✊
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Food allergy discrimination at work, NTA suggests legal action ⚖️
IndependentShelter92 | IndependentShelter92
Suggestion to get a doctor's note for food allergy discrimination.
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Food allergy shamed, but why no other restaurant options? 🤔
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Standing up for yourself at work can be risky 🤪
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Suggesting a restaurant gift card instead of forced eating out 🍴
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Employee threatened to go to labor board over insensitive coworker
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Supportive comment defends employee with food allergy at work celebration 🙌
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Suggesting a solution for inclusive workplace celebration 🍴
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Being inclusive of food allergies is not rocket science 🚀
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Commenter calls out absurdity of workplace food allergy backlash 🤯
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Co-workers insist on Chinese food despite deadly allergy. NTA.
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Stand up for yourself and choose who celebrates with you 🎉
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Limited restaurant options cause backlash for food allergy at work.
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Compromise suggestions offered, HR and coworker criticized, and self-celebration suggested. 🍴
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Standing up for yourself is not compromise. You're NTA 👏
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Standing up for yourself in the workplace 💪
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Supportive comment encourages to stand up for themselves, NTA 👏
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Office drama over restaurant choice, commenter not at fault 😐
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Respect food allergies. Janine can adjust easier than OP. 🙏
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Food allergy is not a preference, it's a necessity 🚫🍔
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Employee considers death benefits after allergic work celebration. 💀
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Suggesting reasonable solutions for food allergy at work celebration 🍴
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Exclusion for allergy is NTA, celebrate without Janine 🎉👋
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Janine's control issues ruin work celebration for food-allergic employee 🙄
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Employee with food allergy faces backlash for work celebration 🚫🍜
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🙌 Not the a**hole! Food allergy shaming is unacceptable behavior. 🚫🍴
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Team bonding is important to them, but not at the cost of Janine's health 🤒
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Stand your ground! Your party, your rules 🎉👍
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Food allergy safety measures ignored at work celebration 🤔
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Celebrating colleagues shouldn't require compromising food allergies. NTA comment.
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Employee suggests HR compromise for deadly food allergy situation. 😬
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Toxic workplace culture uncovered in food allergy backlash 😱
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Standing up for your health is never the wrong move 🙌
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Indian restaurant compromise for food allergy - NTA 👍
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HR fails to handle food allergy, employee faces backlash 😕
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Employee faces backlash for food allergy at work celebration. Supportive reply.
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Insensitive comment about food allergy at work celebration 😒
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Commenter suggests easy solution, but lacks empathy 🤔
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Janine can either suck it up or jump off 🤷♀️
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Sarcastic suggestion for dealing with insensitive coworkers 🤷🏼\♀️
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Stand up for your health 🙏, not everyone will understand 🤷♀️
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Putting your health first at work - NTA 🙌
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Employee faces backlash for food allergy at work celebration. NTA stands up to HR for providing safe lunch.
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Stand your ground, NTA! 🙌🏼
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Don't let a spoiled coworker ruin your birthday celebration 🎉🎂
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Commenter suggests coworkers are acting childish 🧒🏼
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Employee stands up to HR's unreasonable demands over food allergy 🙅♀️
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Commenter questions chaos at work luncheon, suggests no lunch policy.
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Employee faces hostile work environment and health hazards over food.
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No need to accommodate Janine's picky eating habits 🙄
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Employee not at fault, HR under fire 🔥
ticky_tacky_wacky | ticky_tacky_wacky
Indignant response to exclusion from work celebration 😠
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Standing up for yourself and your rights at work 🙌
CraigThornton78 | CraigThornton78
Stand your ground and don't compromise with food allergies 👏
elvenmal | elvenmal
Celebrate without food? Get takeout from multiple restaurants. NTA 🎉
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Solutions for accommodating food allergies in the workplace. 🍴
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Solutions proposed for allergy issue at work celebration 🤔
gabatme | gabatme
Celebrate your award with a drink and no drama 🍻
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Allergy at work event, can you file workman's comp? 🤔
uhhhhh_iforgotit | uhhhhh_iforgotit
Stand up for your allergy rights at work 🙌🏻
UnsureRenter22 | UnsureRenter22
Skip the celebration, hang out with cool coworkers instead. NTA 👍
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