Mother Upset With Son For Finding A Job Without Telling Her

Alfe Mercado
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A mother is upset after finding out her son got a job without consulting her first. She argues that now she's left without someone to watch her daughters, and paid childcare is not an option. Her son says he needs the job to save money, but the mother believes he's inconsiderate of the family's need to provide for everyone. The post has sparked much discussion about family dynamics and whether or not it's reasonable for the mother to be upset. Read on to find out more!

New beginnings for son and mother's relationship 🌟

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Mom upset after son accepts job without considering family impact

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Mom upset with son for job search secrecy 🤐

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Son wants to work to save money, mom not happy 😒

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Son finds job, upsets mother and father, family feud 😠

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Mother upset with son for finding a job without telling her 💼

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Son chooses sisters over job, mom struggles with babysitting options

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Son babysits sisters, mom still upset about job. 🤷

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Sisters provide refuge for son, therapy not an option 🏠

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Mom upset with son for getting a job without telling her 😤

Living with her son, husband, and two younger half-sisters, a mother feels upset and frustrated after discovering that her son had found a job without telling her. The issue at hand is that her son was the primary caregiver for his sisters during the hours when she was at work. With her husband being a pilot and traveling frequently, and paid childcare not an option, the mother is left without someone to care for her daughters. Despite her son's reasoning that he needed the job to save money and pay for his entertainment, the mother feels that he is being selfish and inconsiderate of the family's needs. The situation has caused tension and arguments within the family, with the mother feeling that her son is not showing enough respect for their struggling situation. However, her daughters are uncomfortable with the idea of a babysitter, and her son only stays with them when he wants to. In the comments and reactions, people are divided on who is right and offer various solutions to the issue at hand.

Mother upset son got job, expects free childcare. YTA.

Solid_Quote9133 | Solid_Quote9133

Mother wants son to work for free, called out as YTA 🤦‍♀️

patticakes16 | patticakes16

Engaging comment and replies supporting independence and responsibility of the son 🙌

Anxious_Apricot_8885 | Anxious_Apricot_8885

Commenter calls out parent for expecting older child to care for younger siblings. YTA.

Huntokar_Goddess | Huntokar_Goddess

Mother's overbearing nature sparks outrage against her, YTA.

Portie_lover | Portie_lover

Mother's abusive behavior towards son for finding job without telling her

Help24-7 | Help24-7

Mother upset with son for finding a job without telling her. Commenter explains why the son is not in the wrong. YTA.

SageAndRage | SageAndRage

Don't be a helicopter parent 🚁 Let him fly! ✈️

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Mom expects too much from son. Having a job is normal. YTA 😒

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The dangers of expecting free childcare from your teenager 😬

StLgogo | StLgogo

Let him live his life! 🙌 YTA for not supporting him.

Ok_Competition3609 | Ok_Competition3609

Mother refuses to acknowledge her son's need for independence. YTA 👎

Ok_Clock_8658 | Ok_Clock_8658

Commenter calls out parent for using son as unpaid help 👀

Smitty_80013 | Smitty_80013

Mother accused of smothering son for wanting to be independent 🤦‍♀️

Consistent-Algae-230 | Consistent-Algae-230

User calls out the parent for using their child as 'slave labor'

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Commenter calls out mother's controlling behavior. 🤨

carolinediva | carolinediva

Parents accuse son of being selfish for finding a job 💼

Away_Refuse8493 | Away_Refuse8493

Son deserves fair pay for babysitting. Maybe he's moving out.

yerawizardmandy | yerawizardmandy

Don't hold him back from adult responsibility 🚀💼 Let him soar! 🦅

La_Murano | La_Murano

Mom needs to let go and let son grow. 🌱

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Son is NTA for finding a job without mom's permission 💼

elvaholt | elvaholt

Overbearing mother upset with son's adult decision to get job 🤦‍♀️

Avebury1 | Avebury1

Mother demands son to be unpaid babysitter, YTA 🤦‍♀️

Flossy1384 | Flossy1384

Mother criticized for controlling behavior towards son. 🤨

ahdrielle | ahdrielle

Commenter calls out mother for being overprotective of adult son

methvenweed | methvenweed

Let your adult child grow up and get a job! 💼

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Parent learns tough lesson: don't mess with adult children's autonomy 😬

solar-garlic1776 | solar-garlic1776

Commenter defends son's decision to start adulting and finding job 💼

Captain_Tiny | Captain_Tiny

Commenter calls out mother's behavior, defends son's independence 🙌

Thatwierdhullcityfan | Thatwierdhullcityfan

Single mom criticized for not hiring babysitter. YTA verdict.

lonnielee3 | lonnielee3

Mother expects unpaid full-time babysitting from 18-year-old son. YTA.

Jazzlike_Humor3340 | Jazzlike_Humor3340

Mom learns son's an adult & not her coparent. YTA.

robotcrackle | robotcrackle

Mom upset with son for finding a job without telling her 😠

Boomgtd_ | Boomgtd_

Parent prioritizes free child care over son's achievement. YTA 👎

ThereBeTheWhiteWhale | ThereBeTheWhiteWhale

Parents should not expect their children to babysit for free 😤

MsClaireValentine | MsClaireValentine

Mom pays son to babysit, calls OP an a**hole for not paying.

PhysicsTeachMom | PhysicsTeachMom

Don't be a helicopter parent 🚁Let your child grow up! 🌱

DarKMuraudeR | DarKMuraudeR

Commenter calls out mother for being selfish in childcare arrangements 😒

gameofthrones_addict | gameofthrones_addict

Commenter calls out OP for ignoring YTA judgement 🤔

Affectionate_Cod3561 | Affectionate_Cod3561

Mom, YTA. He's 18 and doesn't owe you childcare 🙅‍♂️

jsodano | jsodano

Quick judgement! 😂 YTA without even reading the whole post

Dragonr0se | Dragonr0se

Mother criticized for being upset at son's job independence. YTA.

Sneaky__Fox85 | Sneaky__Fox85

Don't hinder his growth! YTA for being upset about job.

BrandNewEye | BrandNewEye

Let your son grow and learn, YTA 🌱💼

Smolldoge | Smolldoge

Mother expects son to sacrifice his free time to watch siblings 😤 YTA

GuvnaBruce | GuvnaBruce

Commenter deems mother to be the a**hole for her behavior

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YTA for expecting your son to be free childcare forever 👀

loloannd | loloannd

Commenter calls out parent for being selfish and controlling 🤨

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Commenter calls out narcissistic behavior, predicts son's no contact.

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Former childcare sibling warns OP: prioritize relationship with son now 🚸

Odd-Astronaut-92 | Odd-Astronaut-92

Mom upset son found job, called YTA for expecting free babysitting.

xxfukai | xxfukai

Parents demanding free labor from kids? YTA, says commenter 💼

YouKnowYourCrazy | YouKnowYourCrazy

Mom upset about son finding job without telling her 🙄 YTA.

dancerwales | dancerwales

Pay your son or find other childcare. YTA 👎

Careless-Sink8447 | Careless-Sink8447

Mother expects too much from son who found a job. YTA 😑

Mr_McPooper69 | Mr_McPooper69

Mom needs to accept her son's independence 🤦‍♀️👩‍👦

PlatoDrago | PlatoDrago

Entitled mother criticized for expecting son to pay for child care 👀

Bubbyscranky | Bubbyscranky

Commenter calls out entitled mother, says 'let the man live' 😎

LeReineNoir | LeReineNoir

Mom learns she can't control adult son's choices. YTA 😒

Tleach17 | Tleach17

Don't be a helicopter parent. Let your son fly! 🚁✈️

BreathPlenty | BreathPlenty

Helicopter parenting leads to employment resentment 😒👩‍👦

Dye_Harder | Dye_Harder

Son gets a job without telling his mother. YTA mom.

MollyRolls | MollyRolls

Mom thinks son should babysit, calls him a**hole 😒

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Mom expects free labor from son, calls him selfish for working. 😠

KennySells | KennySells

Mom tries to control son's work and college schedule. YTA 🤨

baobab77 | baobab77

Mom needs to respect son's financial independence 💰👨‍👩‍👦

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