Living with family can be tough, especially when underlying issues have been left untreated. In this post, a woman shares her experience living with her brother-in-law, who had untreated autism. The situation escalated to the point where she had to move out, and she blamed her BIL for destroying two marriages. Despite going to therapy, her BIL's behavior was intolerable, and she had to take action. Read on to learn more about this family drama and how it played out.
Woman Leaves Home After BIL's Behavior Becomes Unbearable
Woman forced to flee home due to toxic BIL behavior 🏃🏻♀️
Dealing with untreated autism and therapy expectations.
🍔 Cooking stopped due to picky BIL Dave 🤷♀️
When chores become a battleground 🍽️👨🍳🔪
Living with BIL with autism, husband and therapy creates tension 😞
Escape from in-law hell? Remote work makes it possible! 🌴
Therapist's recommendations to ease BIL's life cause frustration 😒
Escape plan activated! 🛫✈️
Woman calls out BIL for ruining marriages with selfish behavior 👀
Woman stands up to toxic behavior and leaves for her sanity 🚶
Fed up with BIL's behavior, woman faces family backlash. 😒
Woman leaves home due to unbearable BIL's behavior 🤯
Living with family can be challenging, especially when conflicting personalities are involved. In this case, the woman's brother-in-law (BIL) with untreated autism has caused a rift in her relationship with her husband. Despite therapy, the BIL's behavior became unbearable, and the woman felt the need to leave. The BIL's demands and expectations, including dictating what the woman should cook, caused tension in the household, and things escalated when he got the woman's husband involved in therapy sessions. The woman's decision to move out was met with disapproval from her husband's family, who blamed her for the situation. However, the woman felt that she had no choice but to leave for her well-being. It's essential to prioritize one's mental health and happiness, even if it means making a difficult decision. In the following section, we'll look at how people react to this story.
BIL's behavior is ruining OP's marriage, NTA for leaving home.
Therapy gone wrong? NTA for prioritizing marriage over BIL's demands. 💔
BIL overstays welcome, husband prioritizes therapy over relationship, NTA.
Therapist's list seems suspicious, but OP may share blame for situation 🤔
Husband avoids cleaning, suggests solution but feels uneasy about it 😒
NTA. The brother needs to live by himself. Autism not relevant. 😔
Leaving was the right call 👍. A new start awaits 🚪
Clear boundaries were set, but BIL disrupted household dynamics 🤨
NTA for setting boundaries with BIL, but sexist reply.
OP wasn't consulted about caretaking, NTA for leaving. 🙌
Autism doesn't give free reign to demand everyone to change 🧩
Setting boundaries and moving out to prioritize your own well-being✨
Communication breakdown leads to drastic decision. 👉🏻
Therapy only works if the person wants to work on themselves 💭
Supportive comment suggests husband is the true problem 💔
Don't let anyone make you responsible for their therapy 🙅♀️
Commenters suggest BIL should leave, but husband disagrees 🤷♀️
NTA. Woman refuses to live with non-autistic BIL, in-laws upset.
Commenter suggests alternatives to living with difficult BIL
Supportive comment encourages woman to move on and prioritize herself 💪
Don't let toxic behavior poison your life. NTA 👍
Setting boundaries with family can save marriages. 🙌
Supportive response to woman's decision to leave difficult living situation.
Taking care of someone doesn't mean being a doormat 🙅♀️
Setting boundaries with family can be difficult 😢
Don't let anyone guilt you into fixing someone else's problems 💪
SIL doubts BIL's therapist's plan, not the a-hole
Husband's brother overstaying causing havoc, commenter says NTA 👎
Escaping a toxic living situation like a boss 🙌
Curious about the list? Guess what tops the list!
Dave's behavior was unbearable, but OP is NTA for leaving 🚶
Woman not at fault for leaving home due to BIL
Unspoken tensions arise in household, dishes only the beginning. 🤔
Navigating boundaries with in-laws can be tough. NTA here 👍
No a**hole here. Good for her to prioritize her well-being 🙌
Prioritizing mental health is not selfish. 🙌
Commenter empathizes with woman's situation and condemns behavior 👍
Leave the toxic environment and make your own happy life 🌻
Don't let ableism and misogyny make you a maid. 👏
Glad she's not dealing with that a**hole anymore. 🙌
Standing up to ableism and misogyny, one dish at a time 🍽️
NTA for leaving, but communication and therapy could've helped. 🤝
Therapist's note enabling BIL's behavior causing family distress 😞
Autistic commenter takes responsibility, declares not the a**hole. 👏
Spouse prioritizing BIL over wife with autism - NTA
Commenter sympathizes with OP and suggests divorce with husband.
Misogynistic BIL expects woman to cook and clean. NTA! 🙅♀️
OP's BIL expects too much from her, even wants her to cook for him 🙄
Therapy isn't about making the world suit you 🌍
Debate on whether the husband is obligated to care for his brother.
Dave's behavior causes family rift; NTA stands up to him.
Don't enable bad behavior. Therapy should help, not manipulate.
Therapist troubles and toxic BIL lead to justifiable departure 👋
Therapy shouldn't be weaponized. NTA for leaving.
Woman rightfully leaves home due to unbearable BIL's behavior 👏
Spouse in therapy with BIL tries to impose on married life. NTA
Curious if there's a hidden meaning behind the suggestion of therapy 🤔
Support for woman leaving toxic living situation with BIL 🙌
Commenter questions severity and missing information in autism discussion 🤔
Removing herself from an untenable situation, NTA but blaming Dave AH.
Commenter receives support after dealing with difficult family members 💪
BIL's behavior was unbearable, but why isn't he with family?
Don't let your BIL's needs ruin your marriage 💔