New Mother Refuses MIL's Offer to Babysit Due to Family Chaos

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A new mother is struggling to decide whether or not to let her pushy mother-in-law babysit her three-month-old son. The family has a history of chaos and trauma, with a stepbrother who is a heroin addict and a sister-in-law who is jealous of the husband and has a history of causing scenes.

The mother-in-law has not stopped the stepbrother from coming around, and the sister-in-law has even wished for another miscarriage on the new mother. All of this has led the mother to question the safety of her baby in that environment. Despite her concerns, the mother-in-law does not understand her hesitation.

What would you do in this situation? Would you trust your baby with someone you don't fully trust? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

New mom hesitant to leave baby with pushy MIL. 😬

mermaid_tale | mermaid_tale

New mom declines MIL's offer to babysit due to family chaos 💔

mermaid_tale | mermaid_tale

Sister-in-law drama puts strain on new mother's family life.

mermaid_tale | mermaid_tale

Sister's outburst creates chaos in pregnant woman's family. 😟

mermaid_tale | mermaid_tale

MIL's insult after refusing to babysit: hurtful and disgusting 😔

mermaid_tale | mermaid_tale

New mother declines MIL's offer for babysitting due to chaos.

mermaid_tale | mermaid_tale

Safe compromise? Suggestions pour in for MIL babysitting at home

mermaid_tale | mermaid_tale

Mother declines MIL's offer to babysit, citing trust issues.

mermaid_tale | mermaid_tale

Family drama unfolds as sister's hate causes chaos 🔥

mermaid_tale | mermaid_tale

New mother refuses MIL's offer to babysit amid family chaos 😠

After a long and difficult journey to motherhood, a new mom is faced with a pushy mother-in-law who wants to babysit her three-month-old son. However, the family is dealing with chaos, including a heroin-addicted stepbrother and a jealous and volatile sister-in-law who lives with the mother-in-law.

In fact, the sister-in-law even wished for the new mom to suffer another miscarriage. Understandably, the new mom does not feel safe leaving her baby in this environment, even with her mother-in-law, and her MIL doesn't seem to understand her concerns.

The situation raises an interesting question: is the new mom an a**hole for not allowing her MIL to babysit, or is she making the right decision? Read on to find out what others have to say and to share your own thoughts on this complex family dynamic.

NTA. MIL prioritizes keeping peace over child safety. Stick to rules.

Les1lesley | Les1lesley

Husband supports but won't confront MIL over family chaos. 🤔

Jonny-Pasadena | Jonny-Pasadena

Trust issues with MIL's babysitting offer. Nanny cam suggestion made.

lavode727 | lavode727

BIL's drug problem and SIL's hostility make babysitting unsafe. NTA.

MiaouMiaou27 | MiaouMiaou27

Compromise with MIL for babysitting at home with strict conditions👍

Fonzie1984 | Fonzie1984

MIL's good intentions may be considered, but safety comes first. NTA 🚼

booklover1993 | booklover1993

Trust your instincts, momma! 🤱 Keep your baby safe. NTA

MagicMauiWowee | MagicMauiWowee

Setting boundaries with in-laws, spouse supports decision 👍

CaffeinatedPanda725 | CaffeinatedPanda725

Discussion on MIL's responsibility and enabling behavior.

ourkid1781 | ourkid1781

Keeping baby safe comes first 👶👍

Shadyside77 | Shadyside77

Setting boundaries with toxic family members for baby's safety. 👶

-pen | -pen

Stand your ground! You decide who cares for your baby 👶

millera85 | millera85

NTA. MIL's behaviour is concerning. Keep baby away from chaos.

Mister_Silk | Mister_Silk

Defending a new mother against MIL's unforgivable act 🤬

not-the-driver | not-the-driver

Husband needs to prioritize baby's safety over MIL's feelings 🚫👶

squirrelsareevil2479 | squirrelsareevil2479

Trust your instincts and stand up for yourself. You're NTA! 🤜🤛

Mary_Misanthrope | Mary_Misanthrope

New mother questions MIL's judgment for stepson and daughter's behavior 😬

OneMikeNation | OneMikeNation

Prioritizing safety and mental health over MIL's offer. 🙅‍♀️

blissoblivion | blissoblivion

Setting boundaries with in-laws 👍🚫

krvf | krvf

New mom stands up to toxic MIL and prioritizes baby's safety 👏👶

TheoryAddict | TheoryAddict

New mother refuses MIL's babysitting offer due to family chaos.

StevieH20 | StevieH20

Consider a 'grandma afternoon' at home for much-needed rest 😴

sweetlysour | sweetlysour

Protecting your child comes first. Hold your boundaries firmly 😌

Feisty-Donkey | Feisty-Donkey

Setting boundaries with in-laws, NTA for supervised visits only.

MariaInconnu | MariaInconnu

New mother suggests a compromise for MIL's babysitting offer 😊

MissMurderpants | MissMurderpants

Protecting your child from toxic family members. NTA 👍

watermelonsplenda | watermelonsplenda

Navigating difficult family dynamics on r/justnomil

LoquaciousHyperbole | LoquaciousHyperbole

Setting boundaries with in-laws: NTA stands her ground 😎

juswundern | juswundern

👍Protecting baby from untrustworthy MIL. NTA.

knittedjedi | knittedjedi

Put your child first always! 🙌 NTA

periwinkle_cupcake | periwinkle_cupcake

Compromise with supervised visits 🤝

empressith | empressith

Protect your child from harm, NTA for refusing MIL.

CircusMasterKlaus | CircusMasterKlaus

You're the mom, your decision. NTA 👏

greensthecolor | greensthecolor

Agree with the advice, keep your baby safe 👶

theories_on | theories_on

Protecting the child from family chaos 🙏

brandogerider | brandogerider

Protective parenting wins! 🙌🏼

mrsvictorbravo | mrsvictorbravo

New mother prioritizes baby's safety over MIL's babysitting offer 🚫

dilvish-damned | dilvish-damned

New mom makes the right call, NTA 👍

thezatch2 | thezatch2

Protective mother prioritizes baby's safety, earns NTA judgement 👶🏼❤️

RyanKennedy911 | RyanKennedy911

Protective new mom refuses MIL's offer to babysit 🚫👶

Matchtuff | Matchtuff

Not the a**hole, but why? 👀

countessocean | countessocean

Putting your child first always makes you NTA 🙌

Odd_Replacement2385 | Odd_Replacement2385

MIL enabling daughter's awfulness, NTA for refusing babysitting offer 😎

MoodyStarGirl | MoodyStarGirl

Protective new mother declines chaotic family's babysitting offer. 🚫👶

brazentory | brazentory

A compromise suggestion for MIL babysitting situation 🍼

backwoodshippy | backwoodshippy

Family drama and baby's safety come first. NTA 🙌

Claire_Bee | Claire_Bee

Protect your child from toxic family members. 🙅‍♀️

Iaim2msbehave | Iaim2msbehave

MIL's offer to babysit refused due to family chaos, why?

saraberry609 | saraberry609

Compromise suggestion for MIL babysitting with clear boundaries 🤝

Ocheevee | Ocheevee

Protecting your child from toxic family members. 👍

perhapsnew | perhapsnew

Protective new mother prioritizes safety over MIL's offer to babysit 💪

tdorn2000 | tdorn2000

Worried about SIL's reaction, NTA declines MIL's babysitting offer 💁‍♀️

MotherofPuppos | MotherofPuppos

Setting boundaries with MIL and prioritizing child's safety. 🙅‍♀️👶

CompetitiveLecture5 | CompetitiveLecture5

Putting kids first, MIL not a trusted babysitter. 👶🚫

youm3ddlingkids | youm3ddlingkids

Grandma needs to step up and fix her family's behavior 👵🏼👶🏻

MoriohSound12 | MoriohSound12

Stand your ground! 🤜👊 Parenting decisions are yours and your husband's.

FirebirdWriter | FirebirdWriter

Compromising with MIL - let her babysit for short errands

TheBitchyKnitter | TheBitchyKnitter

New mom seeks advice on MIL babysitting, NTA for being cautious.

sunny_sally | sunny_sally

Trust your gut, and keep baby close to home 👶

Musubisurfer | Musubisurfer

Respect boundaries: Grandparents pushing to babysit, NTA shuts them down

Lennyisabadcat | Lennyisabadcat

New mom stands up to MIL's babysitting offer

maebake | maebake

Choose wisely: NTA has the right to say no 🙅‍♀️

NEOLittle | NEOLittle

MIL's babysitting offer declined due to family chaos. NTA.

AdamantMink | AdamantMink

Protecting your child comes first, don't let anyone guilt-trip you. 🙏

Whiteroses7252012 | Whiteroses7252012

Not the a**hole for prioritizing own family's needs 🙌

theviolethour3 | theviolethour3

Prioritizing baby's safety over MIL's feelings. 👍

Sun1Bear | Sun1Bear

New mother refuses MIL's offer to babysit due to family chaos 💥

heretolose11 | heretolose11

Trust your instincts, mama bear 🐻❤️

VirtualIce23 | VirtualIce23

Taking responsibility for your kids: a mother's job 👩‍👧‍👦

J-dragon21 | J-dragon21