Father Struggles To Navigate Children's Conflicting Needs

Alfe Mercado
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The color blue is causing a rift between a parent and their kids. Son loves the color and wears it often, while daughter finds it painful due to its association with a hate group that harms autistic people. This parent is torn between their daughter's aversion and their son's right to wear his favorite color. They seek advice on whether they are being unfair to their daughter by not banning the color. What do you think? Is there a solution that can satisfy everyone? Share your thoughts!

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Parents always want to ensure their children are happy and comfortable. But what do you do when their needs conflict with each other? This is the dilemma that one father is facing. His son loves the color blue, but his daughter, who is autistic, finds it incredibly upsetting due to its association with a hate organization. The father is torn between wanting to make his son happy and not wanting to cause his daughter any pain. He's wondering if he's handling the situation correctly.

It's a challenging situation, but it's common for parents to face conflicting needs among their children. In this case, it's a matter of color preference, but it could be anything from food choices to activities. Parents must listen to their children's needs and find a compromise for everyone. In this situation, the father is considering talking to his daughter's therapist to help her cope with her aversion to the color blue. It's a step in the right direction, and hopefully, they will find a solution that will allow both of his children to feel comfortable in their homes.

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Setting reasonable accommodations for daughter with autism. No to unreasonable demands.

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NTA dad seeks advice on daughter's aversion to blue color.

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