Teen Loses It When Parents Announce 10th Child

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An 18-year-old girl has taken to Reddit to share her frustration and anger after her parents announced they are expecting their 10th child. The girl is the middle child of 9 siblings, 7 of whom have severe physical and mental disabilities. She believes her parents kept having children in the hopes of having healthy ones who can help support the family. The girl and her twin brother are the only healthy ones, and they have been footing the bill for the family quite often. She and her brother had to give up their savings and cancel a trip with friends due to a sibling's needs. The girl was under the impression that her parents were done having kids, but they recently announced the pregnancy. She lost her temper and told her mom to abort the baby. Her parents were upset, and the girl left to stay with a friend. Is she the a**hole for reacting this way?

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Financial sacrifices for siblings, a common but frustrating situation 😒

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Surprised teen reacts to parents' announcement of 10th child 😲

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Teen overwhelmed as parents announce 10th child 😫

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Teen runs away after parents announce 10th child 😔

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Sibling conflict: AITA for calling mom out on 10th child?

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Teen forced to financially support 9 siblings loses it over 10th

An 18-year-old girl from a family of 9 siblings shares her frustration about being financially responsible for her family. With 7 of her siblings having severe physical and mental disabilities, the burden on her and her twin brother is immense. Recently, they had to give up their savings for a trip and for a deposit to help their family. With their parents being broke, the news of a 10th child was the breaking point for her. She told her mother to abort the child, causing her mother to cry and her father to shout at her. The teen left home and is staying with a friend. Her brother thinks she reacted poorly, but she wonders if she is the asshole in this situation. Read on for reactions and comments on this family's situation.

NTA users advise OP and their twin to move out ASAP

unjessicabiel_evable | unjessicabiel_evable

Don't let your parents take advantage of you, move out 🚶‍♀️💨

mdthomas | mdthomas

Escape plan: Open a personal bank account and save secretly 💰

Mr_Extraction | Mr_Extraction

Encouraging independence 🚪. Supportive reply 🙌.

thirdtryisthecharm | thirdtryisthecharm

Encouraging OP to move out and stop giving money 💰

MountainTomato9292 | MountainTomato9292

Escape from parentification and financial abuse. 🚶‍♂️💰

Corfiz74 | Corfiz74

Commenter defends teen for not wanting to pay for 10th child. 💰

NotTwitchy | NotTwitchy

Encouraging response to a young person experiencing parentification 💪

PersephoneTheOG | PersephoneTheOG

Escape your parents' chaotic household by joining the military 🇺🇸

Grab_Specialist | Grab_Specialist

NTA. Move out and start a new life 🏠

canuck_2022 | canuck_2022

Protect your financial independence 💰🚶‍♂️

BlueMoon5k | BlueMoon5k

Consider therapy for conflict resolution 🤔💭💡

Inevitable_Tomato824 | Inevitable_Tomato824

Commenter suggests parents may be pocketing medicaid funds 💰

b3lindseyb3 | b3lindseyb3

Take control of your life and don't let others dictate it 💪

BeepBlipBlapBloop | BeepBlipBlapBloop

Escape from toxic parents and their baby-making factory. 🏃👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

Affectionate_Ice_658 | Affectionate_Ice_658

Encouragement for a struggling sibling to break free 🙌

km89 | km89

NTA. OP is experiencing trauma and financial abuse from parents 😔

[deleted] | [deleted]

Escape plan advised for commenter and Jake 😛

LiteraturesLove | LiteraturesLove

Escape the abuse and live for yourself! 🙌

Competitive_Rip6498 | Competitive_Rip6498

Teen rightfully questions parents' decision to have 10th child. 🤔

icanschwim | icanschwim

Standing up to parents' unrealistic expectations. #NTA 🙌

Ok-Map-5091 | Ok-Map-5091

Commenter calls out parents for irresponsible breeding, advises action

Nevali4 | Nevali4

Compassionate suggestion for overwhelmed young adult. 🤗

Money-Pop-5262 | Money-Pop-5262

Serious concern raised: Is it time to call CPS?

elg309 | elg309

Commenter sympathizes with teen who moved out due to parents' decision

Curious_CatExists | Curious_CatExists

Escape the nest! 🏃‍♂️ Take control of your life 🌟

SmolMommaV | SmolMommaV

Teen speaks out against irresponsible parenting of 10th child. 👏

Mishy162 | Mishy162

NTA stands up to parents having 10th child with disabilities.

El_Ren | El_Ren

Secure your assets and move out 💰🚚

usernameandsomeno | usernameandsomeno

Supportive comment encourages financial independence and criticizes parents' irresponsibility 💰🚫👎

ittybittymomma | ittybittymomma

Valid concerns, but get out fast! 🏃🏻

TovaIsNaughty | TovaIsNaughty

Concerns raised over responsibility for disabled siblings. 🤔

heardnotseen01 | heardnotseen01

Standing up to parental abuse. ✊

Keirathyl | Keirathyl

Protect your assets and focus on yourself. 🙌

DankyMcJangles | DankyMcJangles

Take charge of your life and move out 🚪👋

HighElf_Queen_Jen | HighElf_Queen_Jen

Sensitive topic. Let's respect each other's views 🙏

lauraleipz | lauraleipz

NTA. Choose your life, start living without them. 🙏

sbg-sbg | sbg-sbg

Commenter stands up for siblings, calls out parents' irresponsibility 👏

user828394 | user828394

Commenter calls out irresponsible parenting with NTA judgement 👏

3TTD3 | 3TTD3

Protect your money and your freedom. NTA 👏

ComprehensiveBand586 | ComprehensiveBand586

NTA. Refusing financial and parental duties for 10th child. 🚫👶

Nevermind2010 | Nevermind2010

Encouraging comment to leave toxic family and prioritize self-care 💪

RosyClearwater | RosyClearwater

Commenter calls out irresponsible parenting, urges independence. 🙌

dragongirl17 | dragongirl17

Supportive commenter suggests staying with parents or moving out

Solid_Quote9133 | Solid_Quote9133

Encouraging response to abuse victim advocating for self-care and safety 💪

TheRealSkeeter | TheRealSkeeter

Empathetic response to struggling commenter. ❤️

madredetodo | madredetodo

Take control of your life! 🙌 Don't let family hold you back.

Forward_Squirrel8879 | Forward_Squirrel8879

Encouraging advice to escape irresponsible parents and prioritize self-care 💪

Mission-Cloud360 | Mission-Cloud360

18 is too young to parent, mid-40s too old. NTA 🙅‍♀️

GrinchGrotto | GrinchGrotto

Self-care matters. Sometimes distancing is the best choice. 💚

OhioGirl22 | OhioGirl22

Don't burn yourself for others. Move out and live life! 👍

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NTA suggests saving up for a place with Jake, calls for CPS.

Valuable_Stranger642 | Valuable_Stranger642

Cutting off toxic family for financial independence 🚫💰

blah618 | blah618

Take control of your life and cut toxicity out 🚪

SteampunkHarley | SteampunkHarley

Secure your finances and leave for a peaceful life 💰🚪

Alert-Potato | Alert-Potato

Commenter supports decision not to have more children.

xpotential31 | xpotential31

Commenter advocates for child abuse prevention and family planning 🚸👶

momo10567 | momo10567

Set boundaries for your own financial well-being. 💰

curlsthefangirl | curlsthefangirl

Take control of your future, save up and leave 🚶‍♂️💰

fbombmom_ | fbombmom_

Support for sibling in difficult family situation ❤️

Stormingtrinity | Stormingtrinity

Encouraging independence and responsibility while setting boundaries. 🏠

AbenaGH0209M3 | AbenaGH0209M3

Empathetic response to sibling's struggle with large family dynamics ❤️

Badger-of-Horrors | Badger-of-Horrors

Choose your own family - NTA stands up for themselves.

Agitated_Crab1 | Agitated_Crab1