Man Refuses To Lie to Son About His Uncle's 'Deployment'

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When a man's brother was sentenced to prison, he faced a dilemma: should he lie to his young son about the reason for his uncle's absence, or tell him the truth? Despite pressure from other family members, the father refused to sugarcoat the situation, arguing that honesty was the best policy.

However, his decision sparked a heated debate within the family, with some accusing him of being insensitive to his brother's feelings. What do you think? Should he have lied to his son to spare his brother's embarrassment in this situation, or was he right to tell the truth?

Brother arrested for drugs, father won't lie to son - honesty wins

mybrotherinprison | mybrotherinprison

Uncle lies about deployment, gets called out for going to prison

mybrotherinprison | mybrotherinprison

Father refuses to lie to son about uncle's "deployment" 💪

mybrotherinprison | mybrotherinprison

Father stands up for truth despite family pressure. 👊

mybrotherinprison | mybrotherinprison

Father refuses to let uncle lie about "deployment" to son 👏

A man's brother has been arrested for drug possession and opted for a plea deal that will see him serve time in prison. When the brother told his nephew that he would be going away for a while because he would be deployed overseas, the man corrected him and refused to let him commit stolen valor.

While some family members suggested he should have gone along with the lie to save his brother embarrassment, the man insisted on telling his son the truth. He believes it's important not to let his brother take credit for something he didn't earn. Although the truth may have been hard for his son to hear, it's important that he learns to value honesty and integrity.

In this post, we explore the importance of telling the truth and standing up for what's right, even when it's difficult. Keep reading to see what people had to say about this man's decision.

Teaching kids about flaws of their idols is important. NTA.

SwaggerEilte | SwaggerEilte

Honesty with age-appropriate language is the best policy. 🙌

GuinevereMorgan | GuinevereMorgan

Father's honesty with son praised, mother's involvement questioned ✌️

trjr102 | trjr102

Teaching kids about mistakes & second chances > lying. 🙌

Briarrose1021 | Briarrose1021

Honesty is the best policy 🤥🚫

calaakla | calaakla

Honesty is the best policy 👍

SB-121 | SB-121

Debate over the concept of stolen valor and lying to a child.

treyk93 | treyk93

Comment thread debates the true meaning of 'stolen valor'.

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Honesty is the best policy 👍

Maleficent_Ad_3958 | Maleficent_Ad_3958

Cringe-worthy stolen valor, but NTA - agreed? 😎

bigchicago04 | bigchicago04

Honesty is the best policy: NTA dad tells son truth 😎

Otherwise-Table1935 | Otherwise-Table1935

Commenter calls out OP for embarrassing his brother in front of son

Imdaishxp | Imdaishxp

Honesty is the best policy 🤥🚫 Be proud of your decision! 👍

crumpledwaffle | crumpledwaffle

Debate on whether lying to kids about deployment, ESH.

cocoagiant | cocoagiant

Honesty is the best policy 🙌🏼 Good job dad!


Honesty is the best policy. 🤥🚫 NTAs for telling the truth.

mantisfanclub | mantisfanclub

Honesty is the best policy 🤝 Trust with your child is essential

Chance-Contract-1290 | Chance-Contract-1290

A heartbreaking story of how lying to kids can hurt them ❤️

chiefapache | chiefapache

When family gets involved in BS 🙄 NTA takes a stand

MalibootyCutie | MalibootyCutie

Debate over lying to kids about family member's prison sentence 😬

Jumpy-Shift6261 | Jumpy-Shift6261

Honesty is the best policy. 🙌

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Questioning the ethics of lying to children about deployment 🤔

TopBottomRightLeft | TopBottomRightLeft

Honesty is the best policy, especially with your kid 🤝

pinga_george | pinga_george

Drug smuggling confession leads to family drama. ESH.

cPHILIPzarina | cPHILIPzarina

Teaching honesty and respect to your son with tough love 💪

nugz_mc-g | nugz_mc-g

Honesty is the best policy 🤞


Honesty is the best policy with kids. 🧒🏻

chrisnada317 | chrisnada317

Teaching a lesson: Father defends telling the truth about deployment 💪

TheBenLuby1 | TheBenLuby1

Debate on drug possession and 'stolen valor'; lesson for 12-year-old. 🤔

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Honesty is the best policy 🙌, especially with kids 👦👧

SigSauerPower320 | SigSauerPower320

Brother's illegal actions exposed, NTA parent saves the day 🦸‍♂️

May_I_inquire | May_I_inquire

Man tells son truth about uncle, brother pretends military deployment 😡

NostradaMart | NostradaMart

Teaching honesty and accountability to kids. 🙌 NTA

DaniCapsFan | DaniCapsFan

Teaching kids consequences: NTA and a great lesson 👍

Sea_Marble | Sea_Marble

Honesty is the best policy 👍🏼

itsMalarky | itsMalarky

Active duty service member advocates for honesty with consequences.

Guardian-Boy | Guardian-Boy

Honesty is the best policy! 🤥

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Honesty is key, especially with children. 👍

alexisbarclayalexei | alexisbarclayalexei

Honesty is the best policy 💯

Maddie215 | Maddie215

Honesty is the best policy ❤️ Let the kid love freely

Sojoe514 | Sojoe514

Honesty is the best policy 🤝 Trust is everything

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Teaching honesty through tough choices. 🙌 #NotTheA**hole

NeverRarelySometimes | NeverRarelySometimes

Honesty is the best policy, even with a 12-year-old 🤞

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Standing up for truth: NTA comment shuts down uncle's lie

cathatesrudy | cathatesrudy

Honesty is the best policy, even for family members. 👍

touristsgonnalie | touristsgonnalie

Being honest about uncomfortable truths can lead to positive change. ✨

Wbaker07 | Wbaker07

Lying to a 12-year-old? Not the a**hole move. 👏

YourLocalMosquito | YourLocalMosquito

Honesty is the best policy! 🙌🏼

crochetawayhpff | crochetawayhpff

Honesty is the best policy 🤥🙅‍♂️

miladyelle | miladyelle

Hiding the truth from children can have serious consequences 😔

No-Preference2324 | No-Preference2324

Honesty is the best policy with children. 🙌 NTA

DrBlaBlaBlub | DrBlaBlaBlub

Honesty is the best policy with kids 🤝👦

fatalcharm | fatalcharm

Parent's dilemma: Tell or not tell 12-year-old son about uncle's "deployment"?

Eruzia | Eruzia

Teaching consequences to a son: A good parenting move 🙌

OWL8616 | OWL8616

Teaching consequences: Smuggling drugs risks jail time 🚨

leeanforward | leeanforward

Protecting kids from harsh realities - when and how?

The_Hartyman | The_Hartyman

Teachable moment for nephew after uncle's mistake ❤️

zaftig_stig | zaftig_stig

Honesty is the best policy with kids 👍

KDY1010 | KDY1010

👍 You stood up for honesty and integrity. NTA.

Handbag_Lady | Handbag_Lady

Honesty is the best policy, even when it's tough! 👍

jami05pearson | jami05pearson

Honesty is the best policy 🤥🚫

Economind | Economind

Honesty is the best policy. NTA 👍

Conn1991 | Conn1991

Honesty is the best policy with kids 🤔👶

Blodbach | Blodbach

Honesty is the best policy 😊

queen_for_the_day | queen_for_the_day

Honesty is the best policy! 🤥🚫 Tell the truth, NTA.

bookstacksamber | bookstacksamber