Military Spouse Refuses to Cater to Pregnant and Ill Woman, AITA?

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Being a military spouse can be overwhelming, and taking care of a newborn and a 3-year-old niece alone only adds to the stress. When the spouse's husband volunteered her to take a pregnant and ill woman to her appointments, she declined, citing exhaustion and lack of support from family and friends.

However, her husband did not take kindly to her refusal and the woman in question now has nobody to take her to her appointments. This has caused conflict between the couple and left the military spouse wondering if she was in the wrong. Was she being insensitive or was she simply prioritizing her own well-being?

Let's find out in this AITA post.

Struggling military spouse overwhelmed, deserves empathy and support 🙏

anonymouswarriordesu | anonymouswarriordesu

Struggling military spouse shares exhaustion and lack of sleep routine 😴

anonymouswarriordesu | anonymouswarriordesu

Reluctant military spouse asked to cater to pregnant and ill woman, AITA?

anonymouswarriordesu | anonymouswarriordesu

I can't cater to another adult, AITA? 😕

anonymouswarriordesu | anonymouswarriordesu

Struggling military spouse refuses to cater, feels overwhelmed. 😔

anonymouswarriordesu | anonymouswarriordesu

Military spouse refuses to help pregnant woman, causing disappointment

anonymouswarriordesu | anonymouswarriordesu

Judging OP's actions in AITA post, let's weigh in 👀

anonymouswarriordesu | anonymouswarriordesu

Military spouse refuses to cater to pregnant and ill woman, AITA? 🤷‍♀️

A military spouse is taking care of a newborn and her incarcerated sister's 3-year-old daughter alone while her husband is deployed overseas. Her husband volunteered her to drive his colleague's pregnant and mentally ill wife to her early morning appointments without asking her first.

The exhausted spouse refused, explaining that she is already physically and emotionally drained and cannot take on additional responsibilities without risking her own mental health. However, her husband became upset, arguing that she should help others in need and that she is being insensitive.

In this post, we explore the spouse's dilemma and ask the question: is it reasonable to refuse to help someone in need when you are already overwhelmed yourself? Read on for some interesting and thought-provoking comments and reactions.

NTA for prioritizing own time and effort, not volunteering for others.

integranda | integranda

Military spouse stands firm, receives support for self-care and resources. 👏

capmanor1755 | capmanor1755

Military spouse criticized for not helping pregnant/ill woman, NTA.

Dszquphsbnt | Dszquphsbnt

NTA for refusing to be a caregiver for a pregnant/ill woman.

Alternative_Ad_921 | Alternative_Ad_921

Military spouse with newborn and toddler refuses to cater, NTA 🤷‍♀️

macladybulldog | macladybulldog

Military spouse's exhaustion and lack of support, NTA 👏

calling_water | calling_water

Metaphor likens spouse to a printer, NTA for refusing catering.

mnbvcxz1052 | mnbvcxz1052

Supportive comment calls out husband's lack of support, 👍

Absolutelycarparked | Absolutelycarparked

NTA refuses to cater to pregnant/ill woman during COVID-19

Hunnybunn2021 | Hunnybunn2021

Suggesting base resources to help a pregnant/ill woman, NTA 👍

delectablepeccable | delectablepeccable

Prioritizing self-care, NTA chooses well-being over catering to others.

lysandrabellargus | lysandrabellargus

Spouse's husband volunteers her for tasks without permission, NTA

[deleted] | [deleted]

Military spouse defends decision not to cater to pregnant/ill woman

Caycaycan | Caycaycan

Prioritizing yourself and family first is important. NTA 👍

[deleted] | [deleted]

Self-care first! Military spouse gets support for not catering to others.

Nevergontellu | Nevergontellu

Pregnant woman demands too much, military spouse says no. NTA 👊

revewrecker | revewrecker

Suggests support groups and resource help for overwhelmed military spouse.

Babsgarcia | Babsgarcia

Don't budge on this, you're entitled to put yourself first 💪

notimefordumbfu_ks | notimefordumbfu_ks

New mom refuses to cater to friend's wife, NTA 🤰👎

HunterDangerous1366 | HunterDangerous1366

Military spouse refuses to cater to pregnant/ill woman, NTA 👏

LuvMeLongThyme | LuvMeLongThyme

Military spouse offers practical advice and calls out husband, NTA 🙌

[deleted] | [deleted]

Setting boundaries in relationships, NTA 🚫🤝

Stroobaru | Stroobaru

Stand your ground! 👊 NTA for setting boundaries.

ingirlworld | ingirlworld

Husband prioritizes helping others over his exhausted military spouse, NTA 🙅‍♀️

RealisticSquirrel705 | RealisticSquirrel705

Assertive NTA comment shuts down debate, 👍

Neko_09 | Neko_09

Suggests seeking support resources for military spouses during deployment, NTA.

Sparrowmethedetailz | Sparrowmethedetailz

Base resources may help, NTA for setting boundaries.

Hadtosignuptofothis | Hadtosignuptofothis

Setting boundaries is important, NTA 👍

ohcommash_t | ohcommash_t

Spouse not at fault, husband should have consulted. 🙄

Dronerman | Dronerman

Prioritizing your own health is not selfish. 🙌

RiverSong_777 | RiverSong_777

Military spouse prioritizes her family, husband needs to listen 🙏

Mysterious_Task_5949 | Mysterious_Task_5949

Military spouse seeks support, NTA for refusing catering duties.

twodogstwoadults | twodogstwoadults

Military spouses can relate 🤝. Voluntold is a real thing.

Pl0xAdoptMe | Pl0xAdoptMe

Respect boundaries, even when trying to help. 🙅‍♀️

GothPenguin | GothPenguin

Commenter supports military spouse's decision, offers sympathy.

MeykaMermaid | MeykaMermaid

Supportive comment reminds military spouse to prioritize herself, 🙌

teresajs | teresajs

Parenting while healing and taking care of another child, NTA 👍

River_Song47 | River_Song47

Military spouse refuses to cater, NTA. Don't set yourself on fire 🔥

[deleted] | [deleted]

Self-care is important! 🙌 NTA for prioritizing responsibilities.

Top-Bit85 | Top-Bit85

Self care is important, NTA for setting boundaries 👍

Strazdiscordia | Strazdiscordia

Don't volunteer others, NTA 🙅‍♀️

westcoastkid94 | westcoastkid94

Military spouse refuses to help drowning pregnant woman, NTA

queenie3087 | queenie3087

Commenter relates to the situation, suggests finding a friend for help 🤝

CrochetBeth | CrochetBeth

Parenting as a military spouse is tough, NTA for refusing.

PresentationLimp890 | PresentationLimp890

Military spouse stands up for herself, NTA 🙅‍♀️

CJL2021 | CJL2021

Setting boundaries for the sake of one's health, NTA 👍

lizfour | lizfour

Military spouse dismisses pregnant/ill woman, community supports NTA.

cillianellis | cillianellis

Military spouse prioritizes self-care over catering, NTA 💪

IronLithiumNeon1029 | IronLithiumNeon1029

Setting boundaries as a military spouse, NTA 🚫🤰

WhatTheCluck802 | WhatTheCluck802

Military spouse defends boundaries, NTA for not catering.

sociablemonkey74 | sociablemonkey74

Military spouse refuses to cater to pregnant/ill woman, resources available.

CeelaChathArrna | CeelaChathArrna

Supportive reply to military spouse dealing with insensitive partner.

sreno77 | sreno77

Pregnant woman defends herself, suggests alternatives 🤰🏻🚴🏼‍♀️

DariaRPG | DariaRPG

Spouse receives harsh judgement in military community, 💔

LauraPtown | LauraPtown

Refusing to cater to pregnant/ill woman, NTA and suggests Uber.

[deleted] | [deleted]

Supportive comment encourages military spouse to take much-needed break ❤️

lktn62 | lktn62