Teen Refuses to Ask Mom to Include Half-Siblings in Her Life

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When a family is torn apart by infidelity, who is responsible for mending the pieces? One teenager is caught in the middle of a family feud over a Christmas gathering that includes her half-siblings. Despite pressure from her father and grandparents, she refuses to force her mother to mother her father's children from an affair.

Is she right to stay out of it or should she help her siblings feel included? The situation brings up questions about family loyalty, responsibility, and the effects of infidelity on children. Join the debate in this AITA post.

Sibling rivalry: Teen doesn't want to include half-siblings in life

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A family divided after a tragic loss and blended family.

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Half-siblings left out: Teen shares her family's division ❤️

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Half-siblings express jealousy and frustration for not having mom's attention

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Teen hesitant to include half-siblings in family gatherings 🎄

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Teen defends mom's decision not to include half-siblings in life

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Mom denies dad's request to unite half-siblings for Christmas 🎄

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Teen stands firm against pressure to involve estranged mother.

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Teen refuses to include half-siblings in mom's life 🚫

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Judgment time: Is the teen an a-hole?

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Teen refuses to force mom to include half-siblings in life 😞

A teenager has refused to ask their mom to include their half-siblings in their life despite the siblings' wishes. The parents divorced after the father had an affair with Kate, resulting in Ellie and Tommy. However, after Kate's death, the mother did not take in the half-siblings as their own.

The half-siblings have expressed jealousy and sadness, but the teenager does not believe it's their mom's responsibility to mother them. The father's family has tried to intervene, but the teenager remains steadfast.

Do you think the teenager is in the wrong or right in this situation? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

Father and family members are AH for pressuring OP's mom. NTA.

Primary-Criticism929 | Primary-Criticism929

Mom shouldn't be pressured to mother half-siblings, even if it's sad for them 😔

Ok_Yesterday_6214 | Ok_Yesterday_6214

Teen refuses to involve mom's half-siblings, faces family drama. NTA

FlyGuy1922 | FlyGuy1922

NTA. Don't weaponize kids to get your way in life. 👏

lianavan | lianavan

Family drama: Teen chooses not to include half-siblings with dad's family 💔

TennisKitty | TennisKitty

Teen defends mom from entitled dad's love children. NTA 😊

AusLiBossy | AusLiBossy

Kids manipulated by dad to seek motherly love from stranger. NTA.

Watermelon_cap3 | Watermelon_cap3

Commenter expresses shock at dad's careless attitude towards having children.

Defiant-Currency-518 | Defiant-Currency-518

Clear boundaries set by mom. Empathy for OP's situation.

Competitive-Bake-103 | Competitive-Bake-103

NTA. Mother not responsible for half-siblings, dad should find partner. 💁‍♀️

Responsible_Brain852 | Responsible_Brain852

Compassionate take on why half-siblings should not be forced together ❤️

VoomVoomBoomer | VoomVoomBoomer

Sassy comment and reply mock entitled stepmoms on AITA sub 👏👏

0xB4BE | 0xB4BE

Teen stands up to father's infidelity and defends her stance. 🙌

NoUserNameHere87 | NoUserNameHere87

NTA. Dad wants ex-wife to mother his illegitimate children. 🤦

terayonjf | terayonjf

Standing up for family - rockstar move 🤘 NTA wins

whitepantherjaguar | whitepantherjaguar

Kate's family estranged due to her being the other woman.

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NTA. Dad and paternal grandmother are AHs. Emotional burden on OP.

Snow-13 | Snow-13

Heartbreaking situation for the half-siblings 😔

EchoWillowing | EchoWillowing

Mom can't fix everything 🤷‍♀️

Existing-Ad628 | Existing-Ad628

Commenter calls out entitled man in hilarious NTA response 🤣

Aeonfallen | Aeonfallen

Half-siblings approach OP, but mom shouldn't raise them. NTA 👍

Top-Fisherman-6045 | Top-Fisherman-6045

Setting boundaries with ex's affair babies. 👍

ArtieFishul | ArtieFishul

No family ties with dad's illegitimate children, says commenter 🤷‍♀️

marycohen68 | marycohen68

Supporting the wronged party. 🙌

GhostPantherNiall | GhostPantherNiall

NTA. Dad should not have groomed you to be a part of his drama. 😐

Rude_Vermicelli2268 | Rude_Vermicelli2268

Support for OP's decision to not enable dad's mistakes. 👏

Background-Plan4274 | Background-Plan4274

NTA. Expecting an ex to co-parent kids with someone else? No way 🙅‍♀️

chaingun_samurai | chaingun_samurai

Grandparents need to hold dad accountable for his actions. NTA.

ColdstreamCapple | ColdstreamCapple

Father's infidelity and irresponsibility has no place in OP's life 👏

Silent_Syd241 | Silent_Syd241

Tense family dynamics revealed in comment section 😬

cadededele | cadededele

Standing up to entitled family members. Stay strong OP! 💪

Key-Presentation-111 | Key-Presentation-111

NTA: Teen stands up to family pressuring mother to include half-siblings.

DatguyMalcolm | DatguyMalcolm

Divided family due to dad's manipulation, NTA stands up.

Particular_Elk3022 | Particular_Elk3022

Woman not responsible for cheating husband's half-siblings. NTA 👍

Longjumping_Low1310 | Longjumping_Low1310

Mom struggles to accept husband's affair children. NTA OP.

Tar-Nuine | Tar-Nuine

Dad needs to help siblings accept reality instead of blaming OP. 🤷‍♀️

Internal_Progress404 | Internal_Progress404

Not their responsibility to fix their father's mistakes. NTA 🙌

Curiouser-Quriouser | Curiouser-Quriouser

Not the a**hole for setting boundaries with family 👍

Tight-Piece-843 | Tight-Piece-843

Mom's only obligation is to you and your brother. 👍

Alisaurusrex82 | Alisaurusrex82

Dad needs to find a new mom on eHarmony 😂

JuliaX1984 | JuliaX1984

Ex-husband expects too much from his ex-wife. NTA.

WolfgangAddams | WolfgangAddams

Teen stands up to dad's selfish request for half-siblings inclusion. NTA 🚫

RNGinx3 | RNGinx3

Commenter defends OP, criticizes dad and his family 👍🏼

Groundbreaking_Link7 | Groundbreaking_Link7

In-laws should step up, not blame the daughter for half-siblings.

Pretend_Librarian_35 | Pretend_Librarian_35

Commenter supports OP and criticizes father's behavior 👍

Annafjyuxevf | Annafjyuxevf

Cutting out family - extreme or justified? 🤔

rizuliz | rizuliz

Setting boundaries with family is important 🚫👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

Garden_Weed_Tender | Garden_Weed_Tender

Step dad's neglect made me accept half-siblings exclusion. NTA.

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Commenter defends teen against entitled dad's family. NTA 🙅‍♂️

slendermanismydad | slendermanismydad

NTA. Blame the adults, not the innocent half-siblings 😔🙏

RickOnPC | RickOnPC

Not the a**hole for setting boundaries with half-siblings.

jammy913 | jammy913

Stop putting me in the middle 🙅‍♀️ #NTA #familydrama

AntiquePop1417 | AntiquePop1417

Boundaries set for half-siblings, NTA takes stand 💪

Critical-Joke-597 | Critical-Joke-597

Mother shouldn't be pressured to include half-siblings in her life 💔

heeebusheeeebus | heeebusheeeebus

Mom isn't obligated to include half-siblings from affair, NTA.

beo_levesque | beo_levesque

Defending mom's choice while acknowledging hurtful situation. NTA 👍

vingtsun_guy | vingtsun_guy

Father's actions are hurting the children. NTA for setting boundaries.

Certain-Ad-3840 | Certain-Ad-3840

Mother's responsibility to her ex-husband's children is overrated 😒

Fancy_Avocado7497 | Fancy_Avocado7497