Grandma Shocked after Son and Daughter-in-law Break Promise

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A grandma quits her well-paying job to look after her grandchildren until they're three, only to be given two weeks' notice by her son and daughter-in-law that they want to put them in daycare. She points out the financial impact of this decision, including her son's student loans that she pays, but her son accuses her of guilt-tripping them and causing his wife to cry. Was she in the wrong? Read on to find out.

Experienced nanny left job to care for grandkids full-time ❤️

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Grandma's generosity taken for granted by son and daughter-in-law 😔

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Grandma's joy of teaching grandkids shattered by broken promise 😔

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Grandma betrayed as son and DIL opt for daycare 🤔

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Grandma left reeling after son and daughter-in-law broke promise 💔

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Feeling guilty for bringing up money with son and daughter-in-law 😔

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Grandma stops paying son's loans after broken promise. 💸

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Grandma defends her care against son and daughter-in-law 🙅

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Grandma betrayed by son and daughter-in-law 😔

Being a nanny was the life of the grandmother of twins, so when her son and daughter-in-law asked her to take care of their kids, she agreed. But now, after looking after the 18-month-old twins for a year, they want to put them in daycare. Despite their initial promise of three years of work, the couple gave her a two-week notice, leaving the grandmother in a financial bind. She was worried about paying her bills, including her son's student loans that she had been paying. In this post, we explore the ethical dilemma of this situation and ask, AITA (Am I The Asshole)? Stay tuned for comments and reactions.

NTA - Stop paying student loans, get everything in writing 👍

SeasonPositive6771 | SeasonPositive6771

Taking a stand: Grandma stops paying son's student loans 💰

annoymous1996 | annoymous1996

Grandma trusted family, got screwed over. Revenge justified? 🤔💸

napsonthedancefloor | napsonthedancefloor

Grandma keeps promise to pay son's loans, but why is it her burden? 🤔

MrsBarneyFife | MrsBarneyFife

NTA and the son needs to pay his own student loans 💰

RomaAngel | RomaAngel

Breaking a promise with only two weeks notice to your own mother who raised your children is disrespectful 😡

redditavenger2019 | redditavenger2019

Heartless son and daughter-in-law break promise to support grandma 🤦‍♂️

morefacepalms | morefacepalms

Grandson is a LAWYER but doesn't seem to be paying loans 🤔

Drive-by-poster | Drive-by-poster

NTA! Don't let guilt force you to pay their loans. 👏

mtbgravelgirl | mtbgravelgirl

Son and daughter-in-law break promise, leave grandma in daycare dilemma 😔

transtrucker88 | transtrucker88

NTA, stop paying his loans. 💸


A tough conversation ahead for entitled son and grandma 🤷🏼‍♀️

Inthewild2 | Inthewild2

Son breaks promise, grandma not at fault 🙅‍♀️

ProfessorFussyPants | ProfessorFussyPants

Harvard-educated lawyer not paying grandma enough- NTA 👵

Smuldering | Smuldering

Grandma takes a stand to stop paying son's student loans 💪

Namshoke | Namshoke

Son and daughter-in-law taking advantage of grandma's kindness. NTA 🙅‍♀️

Miserable_Dinner_698 | Miserable_Dinner_698

Ungrateful son and daughter-in-law break promise. NTA stands strong.

type1error | type1error

Grandma pays half of son's 200k student loan. Betrayed by son.

Ancient-Regular4007 | Ancient-Regular4007

Possible explanation for delayed daycare spot, but lack of honesty?

carashhan | carashhan

Betrayed by family, NTA grandma seeks justice and vengeance 💪

BeefRage | BeefRage

Grandma stands up for herself, internet agrees with her 👍

Smitty80015 | Smitty80015

Standing up for yourself is not manipulative 💪

Quantum_Pussy | Quantum_Pussy

Breaking a promise and causing financial strain on grandma. NTA 💰

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Broken promise causes financial fallout with son and daughter-in-law 😞

SpectacularTurtle | SpectacularTurtle

A fair compromise denied: Grandma's job search continues. 😢

SarinaW | SarinaW

Grandma loses job after son and daughter-in-law break promise 😞

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Family betrays grandma's trust, leaves her with financial burden. NTA 👍

GEoDLeto | GEoDLeto

Family business gone wrong. NTA for holding them accountable.

KalSmeg | KalSmeg

Stand up for yourself! 💪 Let your son handle his own finances.

brimydeeps | brimydeeps

Standing up to family isn't easy 😢 but NTA for sure!

maldecoucou1 | maldecoucou1

Grandma's childcare skills questioned after son and DIL's broken promise

LifeFanatic | LifeFanatic

Agreement broken, grandma's income lost. NAH, but AHs for disrespect.

drjessicalynn | drjessicalynn

Generous grandma stands up for herself and says no 🙅‍♀️

mzpljc | mzpljc

Daycare vs preschool debate sparks discussion among commenters 🤔

Ok_Seaworthiness588 | Ok_Seaworthiness588

Don't let manipulative family members take advantage of you 👀

DrPhysicsGirl | DrPhysicsGirl

Verbal contract broken, student loan payment not appreciated. (🤔💬💰)

HellaShelle | HellaShelle

Grandma left in the lurch for strangers, but why?

lovemypennydog | lovemypennydog

No co-sign, no credit issues. Dodged a bullet! 👌

thestarchildhere | thestarchildhere

Grandma left in the dark about grandkids' daycare 🏫😞

ReputationSad7493 | ReputationSad7493

Breaking promises? Definitely not the a**hole, grandma 🤨

johnnyblinng | johnnyblinng

Breaking promises and short notices are not okay 🚫🙅‍♂️

ingirlworld | ingirlworld

NTA deserves better than a last-minute notice from family 🙁

dina_NP2020 | dina_NP2020

Family and business don't always mix. NAH, but set boundaries 👪💼

PartyCat78 | PartyCat78

Put yourself first 💰, NTA for not paying son's loans

SophiaIsabella4 | SophiaIsabella4

Lesson learned: don't trust promises from untrustworthy family members 🤦‍♀️

Derbyshirelass40 | Derbyshirelass40

Verbal daycare agreement broken by son and daughter-in-law 🤔

calaakla | calaakla

Don't let him guilt-trip you. Set boundaries and stay firm. 💪

yazida | yazida

Former teacher agrees, NTA. Refusing to pay loans is fair.

LingonberryPrior6896 | LingonberryPrior6896

Unpopular opinion: NAH, initial agreement was flawed.

I_The_Prokaryokte | I_The_Prokaryokte

"Manipulative" or not, bills still need to be paid. #NTA 🙌

Ihibri | Ihibri

Commenter defends OP's actions and calls out manipulative behavior. 👏

OverTheMoon82 | OverTheMoon82

Grandma rightfully stands up for herself after broken promise 💪

Either_Coconut | Either_Coconut

Childcare worker defends son and DIL's decision, criticizes short notice.

DapperEmployer9350 | DapperEmployer9350

NTA. Grandma won't tolerate broken promises. 💪

LeReineNoir | LeReineNoir

Set boundaries early and stay strong 💪

PaulineN1981 | PaulineN1981

Quality family care safer & superior than daycare, bad decision.

Commercial_Lecture_5 | Commercial_Lecture_5

Finding socialization for kids proves challenging for grandma 🧒👵

Altruistic_Surround8 | Altruistic_Surround8