A grandma quits her well-paying job to look after her grandchildren until they're three, only to be given two weeks' notice by her son and daughter-in-law that they want to put them in daycare. She points out the financial impact of this decision, including her son's student loans that she pays, but her son accuses her of guilt-tripping them and causing his wife to cry. Was she in the wrong? Read on to find out.
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Grandma stops paying son's loans after broken promise. 💸
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Grandma betrayed by son and daughter-in-law 😔
Being a nanny was the life of the grandmother of twins, so when her son and daughter-in-law asked her to take care of their kids, she agreed. But now, after looking after the 18-month-old twins for a year, they want to put them in daycare. Despite their initial promise of three years of work, the couple gave her a two-week notice, leaving the grandmother in a financial bind. She was worried about paying her bills, including her son's student loans that she had been paying. In this post, we explore the ethical dilemma of this situation and ask, AITA (Am I The Asshole)? Stay tuned for comments and reactions.
NTA - Stop paying student loans, get everything in writing 👍
SeasonPositive6771 | SeasonPositive6771
Taking a stand: Grandma stops paying son's student loans 💰
annoymous1996 | annoymous1996
Grandma trusted family, got screwed over. Revenge justified? 🤔💸
napsonthedancefloor | napsonthedancefloor
Grandma keeps promise to pay son's loans, but why is it her burden? 🤔
MrsBarneyFife | MrsBarneyFife
NTA and the son needs to pay his own student loans 💰
RomaAngel | RomaAngel
Breaking a promise with only two weeks notice to your own mother who raised your children is disrespectful 😡
redditavenger2019 | redditavenger2019
Heartless son and daughter-in-law break promise to support grandma 🤦♂️
morefacepalms | morefacepalms
Grandson is a LAWYER but doesn't seem to be paying loans 🤔
Drive-by-poster | Drive-by-poster
NTA! Don't let guilt force you to pay their loans. 👏
mtbgravelgirl | mtbgravelgirl
Son and daughter-in-law break promise, leave grandma in daycare dilemma 😔
transtrucker88 | transtrucker88
NTA, stop paying his loans. 💸
DGinLDO | DGinLDO
A tough conversation ahead for entitled son and grandma 🤷🏼♀️
Inthewild2 | Inthewild2
Son breaks promise, grandma not at fault 🙅♀️
ProfessorFussyPants | ProfessorFussyPants
Harvard-educated lawyer not paying grandma enough- NTA 👵
Smuldering | Smuldering
Grandma takes a stand to stop paying son's student loans 💪
Namshoke | Namshoke
Son and daughter-in-law taking advantage of grandma's kindness. NTA 🙅♀️
Miserable_Dinner_698 | Miserable_Dinner_698
Ungrateful son and daughter-in-law break promise. NTA stands strong.
type1error | type1error
Grandma pays half of son's 200k student loan. Betrayed by son.
Ancient-Regular4007 | Ancient-Regular4007
Possible explanation for delayed daycare spot, but lack of honesty?
carashhan | carashhan
Betrayed by family, NTA grandma seeks justice and vengeance 💪
BeefRage | BeefRage
Grandma stands up for herself, internet agrees with her 👍
Smitty80015 | Smitty80015
Standing up for yourself is not manipulative 💪
Quantum_Pussy | Quantum_Pussy
Breaking a promise and causing financial strain on grandma. NTA 💰
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Broken promise causes financial fallout with son and daughter-in-law 😞
SpectacularTurtle | SpectacularTurtle
A fair compromise denied: Grandma's job search continues. 😢
SarinaW | SarinaW
Grandma loses job after son and daughter-in-law break promise 😞
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Family betrays grandma's trust, leaves her with financial burden. NTA 👍
GEoDLeto | GEoDLeto
Family business gone wrong. NTA for holding them accountable.
KalSmeg | KalSmeg
Stand up for yourself! 💪 Let your son handle his own finances.
brimydeeps | brimydeeps
Standing up to family isn't easy 😢 but NTA for sure!
maldecoucou1 | maldecoucou1
Grandma's childcare skills questioned after son and DIL's broken promise
LifeFanatic | LifeFanatic
Agreement broken, grandma's income lost. NAH, but AHs for disrespect.
drjessicalynn | drjessicalynn
Generous grandma stands up for herself and says no 🙅♀️
mzpljc | mzpljc
Daycare vs preschool debate sparks discussion among commenters 🤔
Ok_Seaworthiness588 | Ok_Seaworthiness588
Don't let manipulative family members take advantage of you 👀
DrPhysicsGirl | DrPhysicsGirl
Verbal contract broken, student loan payment not appreciated. (🤔💬💰)
HellaShelle | HellaShelle
Grandma left in the lurch for strangers, but why?
lovemypennydog | lovemypennydog
No co-sign, no credit issues. Dodged a bullet! 👌
thestarchildhere | thestarchildhere
Grandma left in the dark about grandkids' daycare 🏫😞
ReputationSad7493 | ReputationSad7493
Breaking promises? Definitely not the a**hole, grandma 🤨
johnnyblinng | johnnyblinng
Breaking promises and short notices are not okay 🚫🙅♂️
ingirlworld | ingirlworld
NTA deserves better than a last-minute notice from family 🙁
dina_NP2020 | dina_NP2020
Family and business don't always mix. NAH, but set boundaries 👪💼
PartyCat78 | PartyCat78
Put yourself first 💰, NTA for not paying son's loans
SophiaIsabella4 | SophiaIsabella4
Lesson learned: don't trust promises from untrustworthy family members 🤦♀️
Derbyshirelass40 | Derbyshirelass40
Verbal daycare agreement broken by son and daughter-in-law 🤔
calaakla | calaakla
Don't let him guilt-trip you. Set boundaries and stay firm. 💪
yazida | yazida
Former teacher agrees, NTA. Refusing to pay loans is fair.
LingonberryPrior6896 | LingonberryPrior6896
Unpopular opinion: NAH, initial agreement was flawed.
I_The_Prokaryokte | I_The_Prokaryokte
"Manipulative" or not, bills still need to be paid. #NTA 🙌
Ihibri | Ihibri
Commenter defends OP's actions and calls out manipulative behavior. 👏
OverTheMoon82 | OverTheMoon82
Grandma rightfully stands up for herself after broken promise 💪
Either_Coconut | Either_Coconut
Childcare worker defends son and DIL's decision, criticizes short notice.
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NTA. Grandma won't tolerate broken promises. 💪
LeReineNoir | LeReineNoir
Set boundaries early and stay strong 💪
PaulineN1981 | PaulineN1981
Quality family care safer & superior than daycare, bad decision.
Commercial_Lecture_5 | Commercial_Lecture_5
Finding socialization for kids proves challenging for grandma 🧒👵
Altruistic_Surround8 | Altruistic_Surround8
