“[Am I The Jerk] For Enforcing My House Rules On My Wife’s Brother?”

Alfe Mercado
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Most of us have probably wondered at least once in our lives if we’re jerks. It’s not as if there’s a handbook out there where you can find out whether or not you possess jerkish qualities. But most likely, the answer is no. But then again, some people wouldn’t even recognize such a thing as being a jerk. It’s all relative. And so, this one Reddit user turned to Reddit, asking people to give him the verdict on whether or not he’s a jerk for enforcing his house rules on his brother-in-law, who is, as the OP puts it, “grieving the loss of his father.”

A brother in law moves in after a tragedy and house rules are enforced

thrill-ville1304 | thrill-ville1304

A husband is enforcing house rules on his wife's brother, to no avail. 🤔

thrill-ville1304 | thrill-ville1304

Is enforcing house rules on a family member the wrong move? 🤔

thrill-ville1304 | thrill-ville1304

Family tensions rise as rules are enforced on brother-in-law

thrill-ville1304 | thrill-ville1304

Tension rises as husband attempts to set house rules for brother-in-law 😡

thrill-ville1304 | thrill-ville1304

Is this husband 'jerky' for setting boundaries with his brother-in-law? 🤔

thrill-ville1304 | thrill-ville1304

When enforcing house rules, what's the line between reasonable and oppressive? 🤔

After Sean moved in with his sister and her husband, the tension between him and the homeowner started to mount. Sean was violating house rules such as coming home late, eating at random times, and wearing earpods while with the family, and the homeowner confronted him about it. However, when the homeowner tried to explain why these rules should be respected, his wife accused him of being a control freak and trying to control her adult brother. This begs the question: where is the line between reasonable and oppressive when it comes to enforcing house rules? Let's take a look at the comments and reactions to this scenario.

YTA! 🤦‍♂️ OP's house rules are out of control 🔥

PotentialityKnocks | PotentialityKnocks

Adult vs. kids rules🤔

shestammie | shestammie

YTA for parenting your adult brother-in-law 🤦‍♂️

BaconEggAndCheeseSPK | BaconEggAndCheeseSPK

YTA: OP is a nutjob 🤯

Primary-Criticism929 | Primary-Criticism929

YTA 🤦‍♂️😑

CakeEatingRabbit | CakeEatingRabbit

“The replies 👀🤦‍♂️”

WeOwnThis2017 | WeOwnThis2017

🤦‍♂️ YTA: OP is the AH big time!

ILikeSealsALot | ILikeSealsALot

YTA: Is an 8pm curfew 🤔for an adult🤨?

eileen_i | eileen_i

When does an adult need a curfew?

DocChloroplast | DocChloroplast

YTA: ✋️ Get a grip!

CrystalQueen3000 | CrystalQueen3000

Are you a control freak? 🤔

elsie223 | elsie223

YTA: 10PM curfew? 😳

krispycastro | krispycastro

YTA for policing 🔐

BodaciousBonnie | BodaciousBonnie

YTA 😒 Respect your wife's brother!

disappointmentcaftan | disappointmentcaftan

YTA: Enforcing kid rules on adult bro 🤦‍♂️

JustAWeirdDude85 | JustAWeirdDude85

YTA: OP is treating BIL like nephew 🤷‍♀️

Consistent-Leopard71 | Consistent-Leopard71

YTA: No curfew🚫for an adult!

Remarkable_Inchworm | Remarkable_Inchworm

😠 Parenting gone wrong?

g3eeman | g3eeman

YTA: Show some respect 💔

MerlinBiggs | MerlinBiggs

YTA: Respect his autonomy 🤝

Samael13 | Samael13

A wild take 😲

[deleted] | [deleted]

YTA: What's wrong with you?

DDecimal | DDecimal

Are you being a jerk? 🤔

totesrobot | totesrobot

You're the jerk: 🤦‍♂️

Ribbon- | Ribbon-

YTA. Who are you to control your wife's brother?

YuukiiTomari | YuukiiTomari

Adults have different rules 🤔

Leather-Anybody-5389 | Leather-Anybody-5389

Is this husband YTA? 🤔

KimmyStand | KimmyStand

YTA: Controlling guest's schedule ❌

beth_hazel_thyme | beth_hazel_thyme

OP's 8pm curfew for brother-in-law is too strict 👀

Ok-Economist-1705 | Ok-Economist-1705

Chill out! 🤷‍♂️🤦‍♀️

cancergirl-peanut65 | cancergirl-peanut65

YTA: 🤷‍♀️Do you enforce the same rules on your wife?

Confident-Bluejay-81 | Confident-Bluejay-81

YTA: Treating a brother-in-law like a child? 🤨

OutlandishnessNew259 | OutlandishnessNew259

🤔 YTA or NAH?

Alert_Sorbet4016 | Alert_Sorbet4016

An adult brother-in-law ✋🏼

Blue_iiii | Blue_iiii

YTA: Get a grip!

Opening_Bug_7991 | Opening_Bug_7991

YTA... a 20-year-old shouldn't have to be home by 8pm!

bertiebastard | bertiebastard

YTA: No 8pm curfew for grown-ass adults 🤦‍♂️

meu03149 | meu03149

YTA! 🤦‍♀️

Comfortable_Fun_9872 | Comfortable_Fun_9872

Is 🤔 YTA for enforcing house rules?

Snowy_Escape | Snowy_Escape

🤦‍♂️ YTA for enforcing strict curfew

Distracted-Pancake | Distracted-Pancake

YTA: Putting a curfew on 16yo is absurd 🤦

handofjustice42 | handofjustice42

YTA 👎 Did you consult your wife?

Proud_World_6241 | Proud_World_6241