Sleeping In Separate Beds Just May Save A Marriage

Sarah Kester
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When it comes to the way couples sleep at night, people have a lot of opinions

Some people are all for it, while others believe that it’s a quick way to get divorced

But what if we told you that sleeping in separate beds could actually save a marriage? Keep reading to find out why. 

Reason #1: Your sleep won’t be disturbed

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When sleeping alone, you won’t have to worry about your partner snoring, tossing and turning, or watching videos on their phone late at night. 

You also won’t have to worry about their body heat, which is another thing that can deprive you of your beauty sleep. 

"Having a person whose body temperature is 98.6 degrees next to you, or worse, touching you, will cause a potential disruption," clinical psychologist and sleep doctor Michael Breus, Ph.D., told Bustle.

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Getting a bad night’s sleep is okay every once in a while, but it can cause problems if it’s ongoing.

Heart problems, fatigue, diabetes, and depression have all been linked to sleep deprivation. 

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"Sleep is necessary for the 'cleaning' of toxins at the neuronal level in the brain," Alice Doe, M.D., a sleep specialist at Ascension Borgess Sleep Disorders Center, told Glamour.

"By not sleeping enough, the brain does not have the time to allow the brain to be 'cleaned' of the toxins that have been accumulated during the day."

Reason #2: You wake up happier

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Sleeping next to your partner could mean waking up on the wrong side of the bed ⁠— aka being in a bad mood. 

Chrissy and Tom Clark, a married couple who went viral for sharing that they sleep in separate beds, can vouch for this. 

"Sleep quality has improved our marriage," she said in a video.

Chrissy and Tom Clark.
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"I am not cranky, and neither is he. We still cuddle in bed and watch TV, but when it is time to sleep, he will go to his bedroom to sleep."

Sleeping in separate rooms means that they can have their bedroom just the way they individually like it. 

"I need a dark room, and my husband sleeps better with natural light. I sleep better on a firm bed, and he loves the pillow top,” Chrissy said. 

Reason #3: You’ll actually appreciate your partner more

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It’s hard to imagine being fond of a partner who kept you awake all night with their snoring and farting.

It is easy, however, to imagine being excited to see your partner after a good night's rest.

You’ll learn to appreciate their physical touch and desire more intimate time. 

A better mood = a more romantic mood. Celebrities can attest to this. Gwyneth Paltrow and her second husband, Brad Falchuk, lived in separate houses for almost a year after they were married. 

In an interview with 'Harper's Bazaar,' Gwyneth joked about regretting the decision to move in.

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"So our sex life is over. I thought it was really interesting how resonant that was for people." She also said that living separately “helps with preserving the mystery and also preserving the idea that this person has their own life.’’

Reason #4: You might fight less

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Research has found that humans are more patient, kind, and fun to be around when they've had a good night's sleep.

With a good night’s sleep, you’ll be more empathic and attuned to your partner’s emotions. The littlest things are less likely to bug you.

Reason #5: You’ll get to enjoy more “you time”

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After dealing with people all day, it’s nice to just chill out in bed. You might play a game, read a book, or watch a show. This time is important to recharge your batteries and spend time with yourself.