19 Women Share What They Became Less Insecure About As Adults

Sarah Kester
Freedom
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As beautiful and wonderful as we women are, we’re plagued with one similar thing: insecurities. 

These could be insecurities about the way we look, how we act, the sound of our voice, how many friends we have, and so on and so forth. 

Thankfully, with age, wisdom, and a “zero effs” attitude, we grow out of these insecurities.

 

Here, 19 women share what they became less insecure about as adults

Worrying about their body hair

Body hair
Unsplash | Victoria Alexandrova

Most of us felt super self-conscious about body hair as teens and even tried whatever means necessary to get rid of it.

But now as an adult, this Redditor has found empowerment in embracing their body hair. It's not gross or weird; it's natural!

Not having a lot of friends

Friends together
CNBC | NBC

"I had been envious of people who seem to know everyone and was friends with so many people. I still think that’s cool but I personally am more of a quality over quantity person. I’d prefer to have 3-4 close girlfriends over 30 surface friends. It’s not good or bad, it’s just different and that’s ok." - u/ohsoluckyme

Their mental health issues

Sad girl
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Thanks to the help of a great therapist and friends, this Redditor has learned that they are deserving of love and healthy relationships.

For far too long, they sold themselves short because of their issues. Cheers to being on the road to healing!

Being quick to cry

Crying
Giphy | ScreamQueens

"It's not just sad type crying, but happy crying, proud crying, angry crying, etc.

I used to be embarrassed about it (it didn't help that my ex-husband accused me of being manipulative any time I cried, so I was made to feel guilty about expressing emotion), but it doesn't bother me anymore. I am an empathetic person, not a pathetic one, and I like that about myself." - u/uhhh206

Not going out much

Relaxing at home
Unsplash | Roberto Nickson

This Redditor has always preferred to do something low-key, like hanging at home or going on a hike.

While she used to feel guilty about thinking bar hopping or clubbing was exhausting, she doesn't feel bad about turning down those invites anymore. Go, you!

Their taste in music

Music
Giphy | SpongeBob SquarePants

"I was bullied for it and so I always thought it was weird but it's actually what makes it interesting for many people when I bring it up now." - u/Seataxi

Not being a social butterfly

Introvert
Unsplash | Alexandru Zdrobău

Similar to the first Redditor, this woman used to feel bad for not socializing enough. Their parents would even nag at them for not being friendly enough with their relatives who they barely knew. Now, she simply doesn't have the energy to care, as her social battery easily drains out.

Their hobbies

Knitting
Giphy | Paramount+

"Knitting/sewing/coloring in coloring books/sitting with my cat and doing quiet things like reading/crosswords. I have the hobbies most stereotypical grandmas have and I’m proud of it." - u/justasianenough

Knowing the right things to say

Feeling sad
Unsplash | Katie Drazdauskaite

As a former ESL student, this Redditor has always struggled with pronouncing certain words or thinking of the right word in English.

This caused them to feel pressured to think of the right things to say. Watching older movies helped, as they realized that people used to take longer pauses before answering.

Their lack of hearing

Can't hear
Giphy | Saturday Night Live

"I really thought I was stupid and weird. Turns out I just couldn't hear. I'm way more normal when I can follow a conversation. Now I proudly wear hearings aids, talk to people, interact without overthinking, and know I'm smart af." - u/k_alva

Their shyness

Shy girl
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This Redditor used to be extremely shy, to the point of not hanging around other kids when they were younger.

Thankfully, they outgrew this as they got older. Now, they're much more confident as an adult and even make light conversations with strangers.

Taking the bus

Rory and Dean on bus
Annotated Gilmore | The WB

"I was pretty poor back then so I was pretty embarrassed. But now I have a car but sometimes take the bus into the city or if my car is down I’ll hop on the bus!" - u/curly-hair07

Their house

Old house
Unsplash | Markus Spiske

While everyone is rushing to build or buy the most modern home, this Redditor has learned to love their 100+-year-old farmhouse. They're happy with what they have and don't have to be a slave to a mortgage payment they can barely afford.

Their autism

Man and woman
Variety | Netflix

"I was always bullied for it growing up, & I couldn’t mask well at all. Eventually I just stopped caring, & embraced it. It’s a part of who I am, and I love who I am." - u/LizzieLove1357

Their sensitivity

Sensitive hand
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Being sensitive makes it easy to detect a person's attitude, tone, or passive-aggressive comments. While this Redditor used to think something was wrong with them for being easily hurt. they've come to learn that being sensitive is actually a good thing.

Being quiet

Rory Gilmore smiling
Junkee | The WB

"People will always call me out for not talking enough. People can be super mean about it because it makes them feel insecure or uncomfortable. When I was younger these comments made it almost impossible for me to want to speak id feel so embarrassed. Now I dont care." - u/samijoes

Their laugh

Girl laughing
Unsplash | Brooke Cagle

Once upon a time, this Redditor used to get picked on because their laugh sounds like a cackling hyena... Well, the jokes on these bullies, as this woman has learned to embraced their laugh!

Their accent

Accent
Giphy | Fuller House

"I used to think I sounded like a dumb country bumpkin. But as I grew into an adult, I’ve found that old people think I have the sweetest southern voice, men think I sound sexy, and it’s fun when people hear me say smart sciencey [expletive." - u/party-penguin3784

Virtually everything

Freedom
Unsplash | Fuu J

"It's so liberating to grow older and more comfortable in your own skin. At some point you realize you don't need to care about anyone else's BS, and do what ever is best for your situation and that makes you happy." - u/Always_Trying01

H/T: Reddit

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